Ever edged too much and then not orgasm?

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2. Overstimulation. You pushed too far and your body just shut down.

3. “Edging” is a rather unnatural phenomenon. Although it was likely done prior to the proliferation of online pornography, it was likely not done as often as it is now. It’s a common complaint for men who use porn regularly and “recreationally”.

   Masturbating to pornography can be considered a less natural act than sex with an actual human being. Sex with someone else is an act you perform in first person – you are the main actor in the event, and feeling the interaction with the person you are having sex with directly.

   With masturbation you have full control over the experience. You can pick the “partner” you want to your exact tastes in that moment, and even switch mid-act to another partner doing other acts. But, what you’re doing here is not an intimate experience but a voyeuristic sexual act. You’re observing other people performing sex acts, and this leads to arousal. On to my point.

   Edging is the process where you stop the excitatory climb prior to orgasm to prolong pleasurable pre-orgasm experiences and give yourself a longer period of dopamine hits. Sounds okay. But edging seems to lead to another practice where the porn user will re-start the arousal process after reaching orgasm. This can result in an inability to achieve subsequent erections, and then lead to orgasm with a flaccid penis.

   The de-sensitization feeling after long periods of edging and multiple orgasms could be caused by biological and/or psychological sexual exhaustion. I have not read much about research into this area. The main problem that porn users who edge and have multiple “flaccid’ orgasm is that their porn use has very damaging effects on “more natural” human sexual interactions where:

   1. You cannot switch channels or partners “on the fly”.
   2. You have to be giving and receiving and concerned with her pleasure as well.
   3. You may not find your partner to be “as ideal”
   4. You can’t recreate the sensations with a partner than you can generate “by hand”.
   5. Your partner may not be into “anything you can imagine doing”.
   6. You may find sex with a real partner to be laborious and less pleasant.
   7. You may become unable to maintain an erection or perform sexually at all.
   8. You may lose all interest in partnered sex and only want to use porn.

   Although desensitization is not the main definition of what people now call “porn sickness”, it’s definitely a symptom of a looming porn sickness problem.

   But, whether “porn sick” or not, a rigorous or prolonged masturbation (or even sex) session can leave a man feeling desensitized.

   Perhaps this is best put in the “too much of a good thing” or “all things in moderation” box.

4. Retrograde ejaculation. Look it up.