If you’re hooking up with a virgin, do you usually just tell them what to do? Hooked up with a guy in a ONS who didn’t ask about anything beforehand. I guess I never explicitly consented other than kissing and asking if he had condoms. He basically told me to take off my clothes then started biting my nipples, telling me to suck his dick, telling me to get on top of him, performing oral on me and then fingering me/ penetrating me as many times as he wanted to in different positions, and telling me to say stuff to him during the acts. He never asked if I was ok with any of it throughout.
Anyway, I’m wondering if this is how you personally would proceed with having sex with a virgin?
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Heyy! I’m M/21. I can’t believe what happened to you. I think that’s really gross. The fact that he tells you all the time what to do, I find weird. Did he even know you were a virgin? In my opinion, you don’t do something like that at all. And if he knows that you’re still a virgin, he could have introduced you to sex in a completely different way. He just felt shit on your virginity as if it wasn’t there. I’m so sorry that you got involved with someone like that! Of course you ask whether you are also satisfied and like the things and you are not given strict instructions! What is this for a type????? nightmare!!!! 🙁
In my opinion, you would have needed a lot of gentleness and care. And he should have slowly guided you. What an idiot that guy is!!! Absolutely unacceptable!
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>Anyway, I’m wondering if this is how you personally would proceed with having sex with a virgin?
Never like this!!!!!!!
Why did you engage in a one-night stand as your first time having sex? I would never do that in your place because I value myself, and the first time should be special and not something one-time only!!!!!!
Can you please answer me on this? I would be very interested in your answer!
No. What he did was not okay
It sounds like he was “domming” you and telling you what to do in bed, which can be very hot. This is essentially a style of sex, with two more advanced partners it might be clear with a few words of consent (plus a safeword) that this type of sex is okay but this is not okay for a virgin without a lot of discussion beforehand. Everything is going to be new for you
The problem is you never enthusiastically clearly consented, he should have taken things slow one step at a time since everything is new for you.
Taking someone’s virginity should be safe introduction to sex. It doesn’t need to be the best, but shouldn’t hurt or violate you.
You could have, at any point, said something. Why didn’t you, exactly?