What are some questions you guys ask to genuinely get to know someone?

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1. “What dat mouth do?”

2. I went out with a friend from work and just asked her, “Tell me something that I don’t know about you?”

3. Start off with a simple question, then just listen. Pick up on the stuff they sound most excited about and ask for further information.

4. This is hard for me to relate to since I’ve been married for 15 years. However, when I meet ladies in the park we usually talk about each other’s kids. If our kids become friends then we find other things to talk about over time. AI is a good one, money matters, humor, listen to spousal grievances nonjudgmentally. This isn’t too helpful, sorry. But, I have made some good friends. Oooh, asking for advice is good. Shows you respect their opinion. And being vulnerable once you trust them enough for that. Of course, if they’re afraid of being vulnerable to you then that might chase them away, because they’ll run rather than reciprocate. However, if you want to have another long term relationship eventually, being vulnerable enough to trust is going to be part of that.

5. I ask people about their hopes, dreams, and regrets. Almost everybody has a really great answer and it tells you how they deal with life.

6. -You get $2000 to spend in one day. After that day the money is gone.
   You cannot buy a plane ticket, give it away, spend on other people, or put it in another money form (like gift cards to use later.)
   How do you spend it?

   -what do you like most about yourself?

   -what are some life rules you go by?

   -what was the best day of your life?

   -what about yourself is the biggest deal breaker to other people?

7. Any question can be used to better understand someone. So much information can be shared if people really listen to other’s answers.

   But I almost always ask what music people listen to because I like learning about new music.