I’ve been with my girlfriend for 4 years and I love her and I would never force her to give me a blowjob because I know she doesn’t want to because she has a sensitive gag reflex(so sensitive she gags when she brush her teeth). I know this may sound selfish but I go down on her all the time but it would be nice for her to give me oral every now and again. Is there any advice I can give her to help her with her sensitive gag reflex and make her feel more comfortable to be able to give me oral?
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I had the same problem in the beginning of my relationship. I asked her if she’d be willing to just lick/suck on the tip. This way she won’t have to go too deep and trigger her gag reflex. Also, tell her that you’ll cum in a tissue or somewhere else to avoid any anxiety surrounding that.
My girlfriend has fixed that issue now and gives excellent blowjobs, but let me tell you, blowjobs that just focus on the tip of your dick feel amazing too in my experience.
Have fun!
Maybe she could handle a handjob with a lot of kisses and licking? Not the same as proper oral penetration but still pretty amazing! As usual the best thing is probably to just ask her how she’s feeling and what she thinks could help.
Also kudos for being so patient and respectful, she’s lucky to have you, I really hope you can both find satisfaction. ✨
Talk to her about it and get to know if she’s willing to give it a try. It should take a lot of convincing and if she’s willing, she could start by desensitising it slowly and that could be difficult too. A good way to start would be by sucking a dildo and getting comfortable with getting it in further slowly. Once she is comfortable with that then she could start sucking the real thing, but remember that dildoes and penises are not a similar thing and there could be other issues such as smell and taste when it comes to dicks, if any such issue arises then she should get desensitised to penis too by just kissing it and licking it initially and then proceeding to suck it gradually over the days. Flavoured condoms and lube could help with taste and smell issues.
It’s not in the cards for some women unfortunately. But there are so many other aspects of sex, you can learn to go without. I had an ex-gf who just couldn’t give head for the same reason and she really tried- we still had an amazing sex life.
If she doesn’t want to, and is refusing to do it, why are you making a post trying to get ideas to coerce her into doing it? No is a full sentence