I’m not sure why but I have never been able to climax with a partner. I can do it just fine on my own but then when im being intimate with someone it doesn’t happen. I have had partners really be set on being my “first” but nothing happens, like yeah it feels good but that’s it. We can sit there trying for an hour and it won’t matter. Is it something that im not doing or doing wrong?
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Have you tried doing things you do to yourself with your partner?
A bit of advice I see sex educators give for this is to have an orgasm with them in the apartment but in a different room. Then with them in the room but blindfolded, then with them assisting somehow in a way that won’t impede the process. If there’s a mental barrier to having an orgasm in front of someone else, this can help.
Do you talk about it before? Or do you have sex with someone for the first time and see what happens? Could be in your head, could not. Not a lot of men do everything they can. Took my wife 20 years and to meet me to finally beguiled from behind and get a reach around clit rub at the same time to get her to cum. Unfortunately there are a lot of inexperienced or selfish partners out there. But communication could help a lot in this department, guide his hand to show him the speed and motion you like and use on yourself
You just may be coming across the incompatible partners or guys that just aren’t skilled enough to properly navigate your mind and sensitive body parts.
I remember when I was a 20m, speaking for many, we didn’t know how to fuck at that age, hard and fast that’s the uneducated young speed. As we have aged we figures out how to make love get your partner off vs just fucking
Introduce a vibrator to your clit while have sex.
23F i literally just finished with a partner for the first time on Friday during a one night stand (after I never did in a 4 year relationship unless I used a vibrator ). a couple things I think made this happen 1) I didn’t put any pressure on it like I had before, he never said he wanted me to finish and I wasn’t “ trying” to, I just did 2) I bought a wevibe last week, I’m on SSRIs and took forever to cum alone before this thing, I genuinely think this toy has helped my body learned how to cum easier 3) my partner just did everything I liked and we were very compatible and I was very aroused 4) I was buzzed but but not drunk, which I think is why my brain was more relaxed