Today i was giving him oral for the first time and a couple minutes after he said he was going to cum. so he moved my head and hands away then proceeded to jerk himself off, very fast and what seemed to look like a incredibly tight grip.
We have tried to have sex before but he went soft trying to put himself inside me because it was hard to get inside. After sucking him to get back hard, then trying again a couple times, we gave up.
Idk if this is enough reason to think so, but i have never had a guy not be able to cum from me giving him head directly. Or have to need this much assistance to stay hard or hard enough to get inside me.
If this is the case, idk how i would even bring this up to him. He claims he doesn’t watch porn & he says he barely even jerks off. So if i was to mention this then it would seem like i’m accusing him of lying or something.
but i really don’t think we will be able to have sex ever or a healthy sex life with how things are going.
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You could always get him those pills and surprise him with it during dinner and hell be ready for you. If that doesn’t work it might be a bigger problem
Many things can be the reason.
– Healthy?
– Good cardio level?
– Overweight?
– Age?
– Diabetes?
– Blood pressure?
– Diet?
– Sleep quality?
– Nerves
– Medications, especially antidepressants
Many things can be a factor, the above are more likely an explanation than death grip and porn. Sure, porn and death grip are a thing, but I think a lot of people tend to think thats the reason. It’s an easy explanation, but I experience that there often are other reasons that are more likely.
Erectile dysfunction?
Cock ring help maybe?
Maybe I’m misreading this, but if him going soft only happened on that one occasion I wouldn’t jump to any conclusions yet.
He just needs to relax while you’re blowing him and let him completely finish in your mouth. No matter what he says, just keep going at the same rhythm, same speed. Guys make the same mistake giving oral; the girl will be about to cum and they’ll change it up; KEEP GOING TO THE EXACT SAME SPEED.
I’m like him when it comes to oral and bjs, but I have no problems staying hard during piv or cumming from it.
I don’t masturbate much since I’m in a relationship and we have sex frequently, but maybe it’s from before when I used to masturbate more? Dunno, could be mental too.
Watching too much porn, jacking it too much
A few weeks off of choking the chicken and he should be back to normal
Some guys are less sensitive in general. Going soft can be a symptom of performance anxiety and in addition he may be masturbating before meeting up in order to last longer. Don’t overthink it! Orgasm shouldn’t be the goal of sex and like many heterosexual men, you may have to forego the validation of being the source of stimulation that puts your partner over the edge. Don’t make it a big deal cause that might make things harder. Good luck!
Yup, watching too much porn, or just jerking it too much. If he refrained from masturbation fir a week, problem solved.
> but i have never had a guy not be able to cum from me giving him head directly
And as we know, unlike women, every man is exactly the same
He’s prolly on percs or some type of opioid, you can barely feel your dick if your off a good amount of percs and that’s the only way you can cum jerking off fast