Previously insecure and overprotective, now into Candaulism. Trying to understand the switch.

First, a defenition from Wikipedia:

>Candaulism, or candaulesism, is a paraphilic sexual practice or fantasy in which one person exposes their partner, or images of their partner, to other people for their voyeuristic pleasure.\[1\] Candaulism is also associated with voyeurism and exhibitionism.

Been struggling to understand this. A back story.I have been in a long term relationship with my girlfriend for afew years now. In the beginning of our relationship, I was quite insecure. I would easily get upset when she would get hit on by other guys or if she got messages from them asking her out/hinting that they should sleep together. To be fair, she always shut these advances down and told be about it. While I appreciated being in the know, it still upset me and it made me insecure.

As the relationship has progressed, there is a general sense of trust and security that has grown. I have also been working on myself; working out, building my mental and emotional resilience, improving my social skills, building my career – generally being a better human being. I can’t identify a single moment when things changed, but the more I worked on myself, the less I find myself less upset about this. Infact, I love it now.I now find myself aroused and more attracted to her when she tells me she got hit on. I love it when she dresses in revealing outfits and I catch/hear of guys checking her out. We haven’t explicitly talked about it, so her picking dresses out has been her own thing, nothing to do with my desires and for her, it wasn’t the same feeling as for me. However, when she asks, I enjoy her dressing in skirts and revealing tops. When she tells me of someone who hit on her, I now feel turned on and tell her that I don’t blame them, she looks gorgeous. It has been subtle and hidden from my side, is what I mean.

Now I know that there is the whole cuckold/hotwife thing out there…but this is not it for me. I would never want anyone to even touch my girlfriend, let alone sleep with her. No judgement to anyone participating in it, but I am personally not into that lifestyle. I would never want that for our relationship. For me, the excitment is in the tease, the glances, the stories of being hit on, and the idea that other men find her attractive and want her, but I’m with her. That’s what drives me crazy for her.

I am still trying to understand this whole thing, so I have not talked to her about it. I would like to hear any of your thoughts. Have any of you experienced the same? How do you handle it? How did you bring it up with her? Again, there seems to be more info out there about cuckolding and hotwifing than about candaulism, so it’s hard to get an understanding of it. Would appreciate any thoughts you may have about it.

Please be respectful, is all I ask.

**TL;DR: Used to be insecure, I now love it when my girlfriend dresses sexily and other guys hit on her, but I am not into the cuckold/hotwife lifestyle. Trying to understand what switched/is going on.**