So as the title suggests, never had an orgasam with a partner. My first boyfriend was when I was 16, the makeout sessions were great, specially liked what he did with his fingers. Now I’m 24, my new boyfriend ( an old friend, bless him he’s a gem) is great but we have tried the whole thing and these are the problems –
1. He’s very inexperienced but listens to everything I say. But he’s not as good with his fingers and it feels like he’s trying to light a fire with his fingers on my clit, after sometime. And by the time I told him to slow down , I was hot there and no use further
2. The sex is good. He’s brilliant. I cannot move the next day. But the d**k keeps slipping out every time, every 4 thrusts. It’s frustrating.
3. I’m plus sized, so riding is a tough task and I would like some tips and advices
4. How to give the best blowjob to make c*m in an instant.
5. How to orgasm. Please someone tell me. I did write before that I could orgasm alone but not without the help of a showerhead. I would definitely appreciate tips on how to do it alone
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1. teach him to be more gentle and to actually be gentle and “play” with the clit like its alive, not mash on it like a game controller
2. you gotta try different positions til you find when where you’re not slipping out constantly, also angles really matter if you want to cum, his dick should be rubbing up against your g spot with pressure
3. im inexpericend here, someone else needs to help
4. idk not a big BJ guy myself
5. You could introduce a vibrator or please yourself while he fucks you, but again angles and thrust matters (body rolling, vs jack hammer)
On the fingering – have him use lube and add more as needed. Don’t hesitate to guide his hand in location or motion… make sure you give very clear positive feedback when he’s doing it exactly as you like–moans/words, etc
Just advice on the best blowjob. Of the girls I’ve been with I always thought blowjobs were a bit meh until this one girl…then I realised THIS is how you give good head. It’s all in the hands, twisting on the dick while you give head, making it sloppy af and just being enthusiastic. If you want to know what the technique looks like search PlanesGirl on Pornhub and watch one of the blowjob videos. Do this and I promise you he’ll cum. Hope that helps 🙂
Get a vibrator in a size you can use during sex with him. That’s way better than a shower head.
Take a shower with him then. It can sometimes be an even bigger mental change to learn how to orgasm with someone else as to learn how someone else likes to be touched. Baby steps is good. Familiarity is good.
My wife used to be a bigger girl, and while we never struggled with slipping out, one way is to use a position that allows deeper thrusting. She particularly liked putting her legs on my shoulder while I stood at the edge of the bed.
Another is modified missionary, where you put a pillow under your legs. If you are particularly flexible and can spread and put your legs up near or beyond your head, that works as well to get deeper penetration. If not, work on that flexibility girl because it’s one of my wife’s favorite positions.
As others have said, get a vibrator. My wife loves her wireless wand vibrator. There’s many out there. She prefers her waterproof ones that coated in silicone all over. She can use it in the shower, and we can just wash it after use.
Get a vibrator, my ex would use it while in doggy / prone bone and it got her to O 9/10 times.
How to orgasm? It’s quite easy….watch p*rn and rub your clit lol you’ll get there