my partner and i have been together for about a month, but have known each other longer.
our sex life was great in the beginning, there was lots of foreplay, oral, etc. everything was great both ways. we used to go two, maybe three rounds.
now, i’m noticing that there’s a lack in some things. we’re both very into each other, there’s no denying that, but it’s been very much one-sided when it comes to sex lately. i’m always giving oral, it’s like it’s expected. things will get heated after a make out session and he’ll basically push my head down there, but he hasn’t gone down on me in awhile.
there’s no foreplay. he used to finger me for what felt like hours and now it’s barely enough to get me going. we only go one round (obviously i’m not going to force him to do anything he’s not comfortable with. i usually just go to sleep or use my vibrator) and i’m left feeling unsatisfied/wanting more.
we don’t have sex that often. his sex drive isn’t as high as mine and i respect that, so i just use my vibrator when i need that time to myself. i still do everything the way he likes—i give him oral, i ride him, etc hoping maybe if i keep doing things his way he’ll do things for me again, but so far no luck.
i’m just confused on the sudden change. is it me? did i do something? i don’t know how to bring it up to him. i don’t want him to think i only value our sex life, i don’t want to make him feel bad. he’s not bad at sex—somethings just up and it’s not as satisfying for me as it used to be.
i have a very high sex drive and it’s frustrating.
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Talk to him as soon as you can about. The more you let this linger the worse it will get and you will be more in your head. You just need to let him know how important it is to you and found a common ground. Relationships aren’t easy and require a lot of compromise, but you gotta talk about it. Express what you want and how some things make you feel. Also, don’t point the finger at him and try to come from an understanding side. If he cares he will understand. Also
Have you guys tried spicing it up in other ways outside of the usual stuff? Sometimes that might help
He’s gotten lazy. Sit his ass down and tell him you have not been happy with his lack of effort lately. It amazes me how so many nen just don’t or stop giving a shit about whether their partner is satisfied or not. But you need to speak up.