So recently had a talk to someone which I consider as one of my closer friends through texting and just shared how I felt that the energy that I got from her felt different from how she was before. She reassured that she has been treating me the same all along and said that I shouldn’t give too much thoughts in our conversations and also having the expectation of her initiating the conversation when I have been mostly doing so. She usually just initiates when she needs stuff.
My thoughts: I feel that any relationship should go both ways and if it always happen to be just asking for stuff then I find that it’s very shallow and cold and there’s not really any concern shown but I do see myself placing expectations in wanting people to initiate conversations and really felt quite dumb and a bit helpless in trying to manage expectations as I tend to get invested easily so just wanted to ask how you guys manage your expectations and emotions towards others.