She’s my classmate… We talk daily but I want to focus on studies…. She’s better and I’m slow in studies. The first thing I usually do is cut off or reduce interaction with her till I become better, but she would be studying with me for the next 5 years and would be sitting near me during labs….. When I start forgetting about her she either chats with me also I would be seeing her the next day……
I told her what I feel about her and she made it clear that won’t happen…. She also took it really cool but we stopped talking for a few days…..
I fall in love with her everytime I see her…. How should I approach this…. This is really affecting my studies.
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I’m in a similar situation right now, but also discovered I have attachment issues and am dealing with it through therapy. I fell for her, confessed my feelings and should’ve known it wasn’t going to work, she’s been through some tough life circumstances, even as of recently and her only focus Is her self right now and I respect that.
I used to have a lot of anxiety and ruminated on all the reasons I wasn’t enough, but realized it just doesn’t work out sometimes and I needed to work on myself as well.
In terms of how I overcame everything, I still connect with her in classes but I’ve began a lot of mindfulness training to reduce those thoughts of anxiety and therapy is helping me through my attachment issues, even if it was a different situation I came to a realization having her would’ve been a distraction from all of the problems I faced, and I needed to address them and find my own happiness/success before I pursued someone else.
I wish you all the best!
Sounds like you might be dealing with limerence