Me [41m] and gf [37f] broke up after 4 years. It had always been up and down and we had split up a few times, 2 miscarriages and pretty much lived together for the last 2 years where I stayed at her house monday to Friday so I could pick up her daughter from school, walk her dogs, etc whilst she goes to work, my job allows me to work from home. However 4 weeks ago we had an argument and went back to my flat she blocked me from all social media and left a message its over. Then a few days later she left all my clothes which were at hers in black bags outside my flat. I was at my lowest point because even after 4 years no answers or anything and i just kept doubting myself.
It’s been 4 weeks now and I’ve started gym and go 4 times a week to self-improve, stopped alcohol all and recreation drugs. However she recently unblocked me and now feeling come back as she post sexy pics on her whatsapp but I’m still using no contact because its no the fact that we broke up its the way she did it which I will never understand. I never cheated or was abusive but I would go back to my flat and drink and smoke which she didn’t like, caught me watching porn once or twice and The main sticking point was she wanted more commitment. I’m having an interview for a senior management position in which I’m doing on the interim atm which is very highly paid. I was waiting to get the job as I am the only internal candidate then we could of got a place together and all the commitments she wanted. I just would say to her to wait. But just like that she was gone. My mind goes between you had a blessing from the breakup because she has 2 kids from a previous relationship and wanted us to get a large 4 bedroom which in London is expensive and she would of sucked you dry of all your resources to goid memories of are time together
Tl;dr me and my girlfriend breakup after 4 years, it’s a struggle but trying to get their.
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You’ll be okay. She didn’t really ghost you, though. She told you it was over. She didn’t just disappear. Breakups are hard, but we all survive them.
Now you block her and go on with your life. That was a crappie thing to do to you after 4 years. To not say anything but we are done. Offer no reason or discussion and then leave your stuff in trash bags at the door like you were some casual lay. Forget these pictures she is sending. Delete! This should actually make you angry what she is doing. She did what she did so now you continue to move forward. If you are still smoking you might want to quit that. Very bad for you. Keep on doing well but block her and move forward.
Honestly you are doing the right thing, stay strong and whatever you do do not contact her. The more you will do for yourself the better you will feel. Good luck
There’s a good chance she was waiting for the perfect time to do it after planning it for a while. Girls don’t really block someone if they love them. Somewhere in your relationship she fell out of love and wasn’t happy
Sounds like she was fed up with some of ur behavior. However, that doesn’t mean it’s ok she ghosted u or did what she did given that it was a 4 year relationship. Might just not be right for each other. Try getting urself better as you’ve been doing.