gf and I are long distance. She made plans with me to have a facetime movie night and today something came up with her friends and she sounded like upset over text that she couldn’t go. I asked her if she was upset that she couldn’t go out with her friends and she said “no i already made plans with you i can’t be everywhere and it’s fine nbd”. She was not super cheery while we were facetiming and i suspect that’s the reason why. I have left plans early to ft her and like i have also prioritized her and if she made plans w me first i would obv say no to my friends plans. I would feel a little disappointed inside but like i would never show it to her because she is my priority and like a life partner and that bond is important to me. Is it a red flag that she seems annoyed or am I just assuming and making a big deal outta nothing? It makes me feel like i’m just in the way of her and her plans w her friends and i’m just second fiddle to them. Thoughts ?
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It’s not a red flag. If she did it all the time it would be a problem. It’s one occasion.
Not a red flag if she decides she wants to hang out with some friends and cancel a plan, but if she does this frequently then that’s a sign. While our partner should be a priority, we need to make room for our other loved ones like family and friends too.