Dating probably isn’t likely for me currently, but I’m on the road to improving myself and part of that is to be more attractive, and from what I’ve seen online whimpering is considered basically peak. I’m not always great at showing emotions aside from through laughter, so I don’t know how to whimper naturally. I’m probably overthinking it but can a woman explain to me what to go for, or give me a class, or link a tutorial or something. Any other tips are helpful too (though preferably from women since they’d know the feeling more).
I’m only like 5% joking in that paragraph if that makes the situation worse.
Thank you for reading this mess. I got embarrassed reading it
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Vocal training.
Moan is good too… also a growl can go nicely too. Honestly, just make noises so we know your enjoying it.
Being vocal is attractive. Sighing. A “mmmm”. A moan. A gasp.
Whimpering is not something I have generally seen women promote as increasing attractiveness for a man. Unless we are talking about the femdom pages.
Putting some clothespins on your nuts or hitting them with a hammer ought to provide the training you need… WTF is wrong with Reddit tonight?!? 🙄 I swear to God I’ve seen more stupid shit in here tonight than I have in the last six months – and that’s saying A LOT!
You don’t
Wtf I’ve never heard whimper being used in a sexual way
I guess you learn something new every day 😅
I don’t need you to whimper. I do need you to breath quietly in my ear all the dirty things you want to do to me. Heavy breathing is good too. Mostly do what feels natural and don’t overthink it
Just concentrate on your breathing as you go and see what comes out naturally. My partner swears like a sailor. No whimpers there, but it’s still hot. I think most people, regardless of gender, can tell if your faking. If you REALLY want to know what whimpering really that drives girls totally mad sounds like, look up u/MythosVA and listen to his audioporn. He’s a pro whimperer.. If you’re only 5% joking that is 😂
Are you talking about whimpering during sex? If so you can’t really force yourself to whimper. What women want to hear from men in bed is natural noises, doesn’t matter if it’s groaning, moaning, gasps, growls .. just don’t fake it. Fake noises during sex would kill it for me
Watch Japanese porn for a sample of whimpering noises.
Pick one
Profit?
I’m kidding. Do not use anything from porn in your actual sex life.
The word “whimper” is probably used more for comedic effect. Think of it more as a moan or saying things under your breath. A great example is if you’re getting head, grab your partners hair (BY THE ROOTS) and go “fuuuuck”. Things like oh my god, right there, fuck yes, just like that, are all great things you can use. Mix it up and make it your own! In my experience just have fun and they will have fun too!
This my sound stupid but what is a whimper? isn’t that just moaning.
Not a woman, but I think I’m pretty good at whimpering on the internet (I’m an NSFW Voice Actor).
You say that you’re best at showing your emotion through laughter. That’s a great starting point! Honestly, laughter in the bedroom can turn into rather erotic noises if one is relaxed enough. What I’d recommend is not actively focusing on moaning like a porn star, because it’s often very clearly put on and fake. Instead, when you feel a surge of pleasure, react to it through vocalising. Whatever comes out, comes out. Whether it’s a sharp intake of breath, or a grunt, or a moan. It’s different from person to person.
Make sure not to tense up when vocalising. Obviously vocalising for the first time can be a nerve-wracking thing to do, however, the more relaxed you are the less forced any noises will sound.
Having your balls squeezed and/or twisted will sure make you vocal
Pleasure sounds are good & appreciated but whether moans, growls or whimper, be authentic. Faking anything is a no-no (& why porn just makes me laugh).
Whimpers do be my weakness. When my husband does GOT DAYUM 😮💨Uhhh well. You could look for examples on the Hub? I would start by being more vocal. It seems like dirty talking was the segway for my husband to start being comfortable enough to moan and whimper for me; maybe you could start by getting confident with dirty talk?
My partner made me scream this afternoon….he was like ‘you’ve never screamed that loud before’….then we had a good laugh (private joke).
Personally, I think some laughter in the bedroom is a good thing. I do get turned on when he moans when I’m giving him a BJ. And his ‘oh yeah, f*ck’ when he cums is hot. But whimpering….no, not a turn on.
So, what I have kinda gathered is that a lot of guys are used to masturbating as silently as possibly. It’s a habit formed when they still lived at home ect. And they bring that into sex.
So I’d say maybe start out with giving yourself some quality masturbation time when you’re all alone, on your bed, preferably without porn, so you can really focus on what you’re feeling and then just try to let it out, when it feels good. Breathe into it and relax instead of bottling it up.
It might not get you to whimpering, but if you learn to moan and be in your feelings, you have already taken a big step to make those noises that gets your partners going.
They do whimpering asmr vids on you tube etc & I always thought the audience was aimed at gay men. I’ve never heard any man whimper in bed with me or even in porn vids. Heavy breathing, or moaning or mmmm .. it’s all really hot .. do what feels natural
Excuse this for being vulgar but I’m going to help you out. Not whimpering but moaning, whimpering is unattractive and unmanly, groan/ moan in a deeper voice is the way to go, but periodically not constantly. Dirty talk (you’re so wet, you’re so warm, I want to feel inside you, you feel so good, you’re so sexy etc. women like dirty talk to be about them not dick, most women do not like degrading dirty talk and find it to be a major turn off). Women like when guys place their hand on their necks while not applying pressure, they love neck kissing/ sucking and breast kissing/ sucking the most. Then you also have thigh kissing/ stomach kissing. Always dry hump with clothes on before anything else (all women love this and many like it more than sex) kiss her neck while doing this) Always eat her out before intercourse. When fingering do it slowly and touch her clit too.
I don’t think women want whimpering lol. Whispering “fuck,” in a deep voice, moaning, grunting, growling, growling dirty things at her, dirty talking, whimpering though I just have never heard of.
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What’s so sexy us a natural sound. So a natural whimper is super hot, but so is a moan, a growl, heavy breathing…anything natural that shows that you enjoy it. Trying to make a certain sound happen is not a good idea. Instead try to just be relaxed enough to let out sounds that are natural for you.
Any natural noise you can’t help to make is 100% better than a manufactured sound you think we will find hot
Why do you think whimpering helps you with dating?
While yes this is hot and attractive, please don’t fake it because that’s the opposite effect.
I love it when I can tell by my partners noices that he enjoys what I am doing to him.
Learn to give in to the pleasure you’re feeling and don’t hold back any noice. It is easier to do this when you are the one not in control, enjoy yourself, Let it come naturally.
Whimper? 😂😂😂 I’d not wanna hear my partner whimper tho, I wanna hear growl or moan 😂 whimper sounds like Smth a dog would. You no dog mate
I’d suggest you practice being vocal period to start. Seems like so many men from steath masturbating from youth though adulthood find it a hard habit to break.
Put your TV on to make you less self conscious and give yourself permission to make sounds if you do something that feels good while you masturbate. Don’t try to judge or make the sounds sound a certain way, just let them happen. If all else fails get a strong wand vibe, haven’t met a guy that can stay totally quiet faced with one of those in play on them.
( if you go the wand route experiment putting it ijnvsntavt with different areas of the head and shaft, if it cause you to vocalize note it. But Don’t do it nonstop you don’t want to desensitize yourself to it. Right as your about to cum should rip the most intense sounds from you.
Once sounds aren’t as hard. Record yourself during your practices, Just audio if you prefer. That will allow you to review them later and make note of the sounds you make.
>So whimpers.
When you’re more natural at authentically moaning start practice alternating btwn 3 things ( record these practices too): long edging sessions, ruining your orgasms on purpose, and overstimulation. These should stimulate louder moans and more desperate sounds in general. And once that is possible try when your moans start… play a game where you try to hold it back/ do it quieter but you’re not allowed to stop masturbating.
Imagine your fav porn star shhh-ing after you’ve started to moan, try to wrestle it back in instead of cutting it off altogether, try to hold it back/tone it down in real time ( if your mouth was open for your moans and groans, close your lips when youn struggle to hold in the sound– which will add a muffled quality to the resulting desperate sound. Some combination of these experiments should get you a successful authentic whimper. Using your recording to figure out what combo or stimulus brings it out of you. Then practice that combo to get muscle memory set for the making/accessing the sound.
If at any point you feel yourself on the verge of shouting or being too loud, cover your mouth with your hand and continue ( that could trick whimpers out also).
Goodluck!
Anything but a whimper !
Sounds iike an injured puppy 🐶
As a guy who has been in the same boat:
DO IT WHILST YOU’RE ALONE CHOKING THE CHICKEN
**BUT – let it come naturally!!!**
I whimper a lot now – and moan too!! (sorry, neighbours!)
What is bro talking about? ⁉️‼️🗣️😭
Ok, I never realized this until now, thanks to your post. Although I, like many commenters here, find a man’s growl or gutteral noises sexy, the most sexy thing for me is when a man is getting close to orgasm and he makes a more high pitched noise. Because higher pitched is associated with being more feminine, most men who are projecting a masculine image are only going to let a higher pitched noise out when they’ve lost control and don’t care how they sound anymore. A man completely losing control with pleasure is so sexy and makes me feel empowered, like yeah, I did that.