I told my boyfriend how concerned I felt about him looking at another man’s page full of vids and photos of him naked(he’s BI btw\*so am I\* but the guys page he’s looking at is a friend that he knows and he replied with this.”He’s cute what do you want me to say, are you jealous or something? Why are you so jealous about it?”I told him I felt concerned that he was looking at someone’s page filled with nude photos and vids (a friend that he knows; not to mention he called the guy cute while still dating me.We’re now in this uncomfortable relationship now . It feels very very uncomfortable for me. I don’t like that he called a guy cute while still dating me and looks at his page from time to time. I even called him on the phone but he sounded so unbothered and calm about it while I was crying. I felt stupid for crying because I felt like I was crying for no reason
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. I want to end the relationship with him but I’m too attached to him. I have nobody right now and my friends and family are toxic towards me treating me badly. He was the only person I thought who loved me(now I don’t know if he is anymore) idk how to leave without
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breaking down or being satisfied with being alone. I feel so shattered that he did that to me. So heartbroken.
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Looking at porn and finding other people attractive is normal. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you or would cheat. If he’s messaging flirting with this person too that’s a completely different story though. There needs to be a level of trust built and it seems you have some insecurities that you could work on too.
It can be tough to find the courage to make big changes to your life like ending a relationship. Don’t feel like your feelings are invalid. If his actions are making you cry and he is unconcerned he will only continue to hurt you.
Many people are uncomfortable of their partner looking at porn and much less would be comfortable of looking at explicit images of people they know. If doing so is more important than your happiness and comfort then take it for what it means.
Your feelings are valid. In my opinion, he shouldn’t even be following the page of the friend with the naked pictures while he is in a committed relationship.
My friend also follows a soft porn account of a friend of hers, but my friend is single. To me, the concept of following your friend’s account full of naked pictures of them is gross enough as it is. I asked her if she would unfollow it if she ever got into a relationship and she said that she doesn’t see how it’s a big deal and that she probably wouldn’t unless she was asked to. Honestly, I felt soo disgusted. Apparently, nowadays you have to ask someone you are in a committed relationship with to stop looking at and liking naked pictures of their FRIENDS.
Do not let anyone here convince you that his behaviour is okay. It may not be cheating, but it’s still disrespectful to look at your naked friends when you are dating someone. I thought it was common sense to not do that in your typical relationship, but it is obviously not.