I’m (M34) in a long distance relationship with my gf (F28). We saw each other again recently and couldn’t keep our hands off each other having sex several times a day. In the first day I came 3 times which is unusual for me. Usually once or twice max. The first couple of times I found it easy to get and stay hard, but the third time was a struggle as it took a lot longer to get hard and then cum, perhaps two hours of foreplay and fucking.
I believe cumming 3 times in the first day set me back because the following days I struggled to get and stay hard. Also I noted that my sensitivity had dropped a lot. We had sex maybe twice a day with me cumming each time. I initially put this down to nerves as she is still a relatively new partner.
But after a few days we had probably a 36 hour break, and after I managed to get hard and stay hard which was amazing as we fucked very well. This lead me to think that the previous days, I never really had a break to properly cooldown and reset as before we would literally fuck again as soon as I was able to get hard again.
This lead me to believe that having a proper cooldown period is best for my body to ensure that I can get and stay hard.
In a few days I will be seeing her again for a long period. We both want to have sex as much as possible but I want to minimise my physical limitations as much as possible, so these are my questions:
1. Is the male refractory period related to ejaculation, rather than boners?
2. If yes, would limiting myself to ejaculating once (or maybe twice max) a day help me get and maintain erections for a longer period. I’m thinking we could still fuck PIV without me cumming. Of course if it’s better to have a full cooldown (no touching my dick at all), I can still pleasure her with my mouth and fingers.
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