So I’ve been seeing this guy for a month now. He’s always wanted to me to invite him in for a “night cup” every single time we kiss goodnight. I’ve been hesitant. Not because I don’t want to. Believe me. I really want to! But I’m scared… scared because I’ve only ever dated 1 man. My ex husband. And our sex life wasn’t all that great. I don’t know if I was good at it. I don’t know how a normal night should progress after I let him in. Do I let him lead? Should I be the one to lead? Are there any do’s and dont’s I should know beforehand?? I really want us both to have a great time and I’m overthinking it
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Yes, you’re overthinking it. Relax. Sounds like he will lead and, difficult as it may seem, imo relax and trust your instincts. Your past sex life doesn’t define your current and future sex — you’ll be surprised at how refreshing and different a new partner feels. Have faith — the goodness is within you — and enjoy.
Just be present as yourself and everything will go fine. I usually just go with the flow and let the guy lead the first time which I often find they prefer anyway. DO be hygienic and DO be open about telling them what or how you like it once the sex stuff starts happening. DON’T let yourself overthink and get lost in your mind. Also often first times with someone new don’t go perfectly anyway but that’s fine because you’ll figure each other out with time if you communicate honestly. And I forgot, DO be enthusiastic and DO your best to just have fun! 🙂