21f, the thought of a guy seeing me naked in real life and touching me makes me cringe. I’m scared if I ever get to that point where I take my clothes off he’ll be disappointed. I’m short and skinny, I don’t have a lot of shape and I have small boobs and a flat ass. I have hyperpigmentation down there. If a guy were to see me up close I’m scared he’d be disgusted.
I know people say men like whatever you have going on but I can’t shake the insecurity. Has anyone had similar fears, and how did you get over them / gain confidence? I have tried sharing nudes online to gain confidence but I feel like it’s only made things worse.
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I used to have bad body insecurity. Then I spent a couple years consistently working hard on improving my body via healthy habits. Lifting, cardio, better grooming, well-fitting clothes and more sleep to be specific. I trimmed off the excess body fat that made me sad, and added on muscle.
I still don’t like my body 100%, but I like it so much now, and I can appreciate the parts that I “don’t like” so much now, when before I couldn’t imagine the feeling. Now I want to show myself off.
So if you’re willing to put in some hard work, you can get there. And you’re pretty young, so you can get some amazing results. If you aren’t willing to put in work for yourself, you definitely won’t be willing to do so for any partner.
If you build an emotional connection with him, he will just be excited to be with you no matter what you look like. Also most insecurities people only see on themselves, he will not even notice these things you are pointing out.