Me, I’m the women, and I still can’t figure it out.
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To give some context (if you don’t wanna read a lot skip this paragraph) I just turned 18 and just started having sex with my relatively new partner. Obviously, like every teen, before I was with this guy I would just get off at home. The real thing is definitely different. Everything is different, but I DEFINITELY find it enjoyable.
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I’ve been having fun but I can’t seem to get off with my boyfriend. What should I do? I don’t want him to think it’s his fault so any tips would help.
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I’m glad you are trying to figure this out – and not just pretending that all is fine. There isn’t one answer for this.
First – many, perhaps most women don’t cum from penetration – at least not consistently. It could be that you need more direct clit stimulation.
2nd, for many women, orgasms start not with a touch, but with a thought. If you are concerned about your appearance, smell, the cracks on the ceiling, your fav sports team – yeah, orgasms will be hard to come by. It could be that you need to fantasize during sex – not uncommon at all.
3rd, are you both getting enough foreplay? Perhaps spending more time before penetration will help.
You can also try rubbing your clit during penetration or asking your partner to (though this can be hard for the guy).
Good oral sex is the most reliable way for women to cum. I would start your practicing there.
I’m definitely experiencing the same problem with my boyfriend. What worked for me was introducing some role playing, toys, dirty talking and expressing some fetishes and acting upon them. Also try masturbating during sex, definitely gets me off.
For me 90% of the time I need clit stimulation as well to get off alot of women need this as well so super normal
It’s mostly psychological stimulation and partly physical stimulation for me