I (F26,Straight) had lots of expectations over sex (just like every human being on this earth). Squirting or shivering while coming seemed normal to me according to all the sexual content available to us.
I lost my virginity 2 months ago (Kinda late I know). The first time was painful but after 2 time within 3 days it felt nothing.
Just the pain while entering (sorry for the details, no ulterior motives here, I need to say it in detail) then nothing. I sometimes even get bored or make my partner come faster.
It kinda removed this fantasy I had over sex. Is it normal or I am doing something wrong? It just doesn’t feel like a out of body experience or extremely pleasurable.
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Don’t feel guilty and it, talk with ur partner. Say him what turns u on and it’s his duty to check if ur having complete pleasure. Sex isn’t all about individual pleasure it’s mutual
Hmmm….are you using the correct hole?
Squirting tends to require a super aroused and relaxed women plus very specific types of stimulation that don’t just “happen” – the partner usually needs to be good at g spot stimulation, which requires conscious effort to do.
Shivering orgasms don’t just happen. The partner needs to help you explore your body and focus on things that are particularly pleasurable for you.
how good is your mental connection with them?
I’m presuming you’ve driven a car.
When you first learned to drive was it wonderful and amazing and effortless? I know for me, I had to grip the wheel with hands at 10 and 2, no music and no chatter from passengers.
Now? I can drive roads, that make others tap their brakes, at high speeds and have a BLAST!
Sex for me, was very much the same.
Give it some time and be with someone you are crazy about, who is crazy about you and be vocal in what you want, don’t want and have fun!
Sex isn’t an inate ability, it’s a skill that takes practice to get good at. Keep practicing, communicating, and experimenting, and eventually, you’ll be slaying out there.
Porn makes anyone believe that every guy has an 18 inch boner with perfect orgasmcontrol, and every women screams harder than a local black metal vocalist contest. It’s as much of a fake fantasy and edited ideal as Marvel movies (minus the CGI) 🙂 Your own sexuality and pleasure are your own, and you could and should explore it! Maybe mentally; you like x, maybe you like y, maybe you hate z. Physically, maybe your vagina isn’t really sensitive, but other erogonous zones are.
The brain is the largest and most important sexual organ in the body, so fill that brain with exciting challenges, curious kinks and enjoy! 🙂
Who are you having sex with? Are these guys people you’re enthusiastic about?