Helloooo
My gf and I got a strap and it’s been weird to use so far. We like the bigger size because we’re used to the bigger toys (there’s three selections for the strap) but it seems so forceful when you thrust and hurts so I’m not sure to make this pleasurable. Usually with the other toys we have we control with hands so there’s a lot more control. Any ideas?
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Might sound odd but lube? Or it could also be due to a different angle from what you use when it’s by hand, the other thing I may suggest is use a smaller size until you get used to it?
Like the other commenter said, smaller toys. Sounds counterintuitive that this would be the answer if you already know that you like the bigger ones, but the angles are just not going to be the same.
Another huge one is also the harness. If it doesn’t fit your body right, you won’t have enough control of the toy and it’s usually going to end up putting more pressure on the back wall instead of the front, which is obviously not what you want and isn’t pleasurable. I find that most harnesses are completely unusable because the design is all wrong and the ring for the toy isn’t positioned low enough. I’m talking about those types of harnesses where the toy sticks out from the middle of your stomach when you put them on lol. Try the ones from Wet For Her page that are actually made by queer people. I don’t know how well the boxer/brief styles work but the classic adjustable ones are great.
Besides that, it just takes some adjusting? Slow it down and try some new positions.