Alot of my friends say this is the way. Whenever I get on top I don’t feel alot of clit stimulation. Is my clit too high or something? Or am I positioned wrong? I’ve never had an orgasm with a partner and I want to so bad. It has been affecting my sex life and finally found someone sexually compatible but he notices I don’t cum, even though I enjoy sex regardless.
I know being on top isn’t the only way to cum, but just looking for some tips. Thank you!
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My girlfriend will grind on my cock while either me or her plays with her clit. She really gets off that way.
Yeah with some of my exes they would have to kind of lean forward and grind their clit on my cock back and forth, not necessarily up and down.
In fact one of my ex’s learned that she could squirt doing it this way many times, so that was hot.
I would suggest having sex in doggy position — head down and use your hand to finger your clitorus while the bf is penetrating you from behind — likewise if you want to do the cow girl position — facing the bf — again massage you clitorus while being penetrated and look the bf in the eye…
You might not ever be able to cum from penetration. Try oral. Try fingering. Try adding a toy during penetration.
Grinding is the only way I can feel something while being on top because it stimulates my g-spot. You can also get a little vibrator and use that while you do it
When you are riding on top or any position for that matter do you focus mentally on your body and the stimuli that get you horny or are you distracted and worried about everything you are not doing? Start with focusing on how your hips move. Fall in love with yourself. Stay honest to your pleasure and your cum will flow freely.
I can’t cum on top with my bf without rubbing my clit and talking dirty. It’s different with any guy. I’ve cummed on top with many guys.
It’s the grinding since they are the ones controlling the position whereas the man controls the missionary position
“A lot of my friends say this is the way.”
This is the way.
A lot!
I always cum while on top, but my husband sits propped up on some pillows at the head of the bed instead of lying flat. It puts my tits right in his face, so I get a lot of nipple stimulation and I think the angle makes getting clit stimulation easier. I don’t just bounce up and down on his dick, I also do more of a grinding forward and back motion while rocking my hips so my clit is getting stimulated by his pubic bone and his dick is hitting my G spot. I have crazy intense multiple orgasms that way. But it took me years to figure out how to cum on top. My ex was a lot taller than me so he would lie flat when I was on top, and it didn’t do much for me (sex with him sucked anyway). My husband is 4” taller than me which happens to be the perfect height difference for tits-in-face action while I’m on top and I also happen to love nipple play, so it all came together perfectly with him.
On top, lean backwards slightly (this will postion your g-spot towards his dick) grind back and forth while rubbing your clit in your preferred way. Voila.
I’ll either rub my clit or use a toy while she holds onto my hips and thrusts up into me. I’ve gotten some of my craziest orgasms that way.
How do you cum when you’re not having sex? Do that when you’re having sex.
My wife loves this position. She says it’s a mix of her controlling the movement and clit stimulation that gets her off.
I need to lean forward to make this work. When I’m far enough forward to kiss him on the lips, usually my clit is in position to be rubbing against him. So I put my hands on either side of his head to support myself. Not sure if that’s how everyone does it
My GF grinds on my pubic bone, it’s pretty hot lol.
It’s not clitoral stimulation that leads to orgasm in this position. This has always been the only position that can make me cum besides oral. I think it’s because his penis rubs my “g spot” at that angle. You have to grind, though, rather than up/down.
I have been with a few women who insist on riding me, reverse cowgirl, for this specific reason. It makes total sense, since she can control depth, friction, grinding, etc.
Candidly, I don’t mind being used this way. 🙂
You or your partner can use your hand to stimulate your clit during sex. Nothing wrong with that.
Your clit might not be very prominent or you might need too much pressure to get off from grinding while on top.
I’d encourage you to continue to experiment. But also try using your hands as well
Down flow
I’ve never ever been able to cum from grinding my clit on top with a guy (33F). I cum by using a toy (Womaniser) or fingers on my clit while being penetrated – either with a cock or a dildo (glass and steel toys are fun are fun). I actually talked about my whole journey to figure out how to cum with a partner on my podcast Gone Rogue (episode 13) so that could be helpful x
Try having him sit up right like he would sit on a couch. Sometimes if they are laying flat it doesn’t hit the right spot. Have him hold your butt cheeks. It works for me every time.
He had to push up and you have to position self so it hits right my wife will squirt while on top
Sit on top and ‘scoot’ like you are in a school chair sliding your ass flat on the chair backwards and forwards. Sort of like when you are seated and busting to pee
I didn’t realise how many women need clit stimulation to cum. I love cumming from PIV. I know my body and I know the spot his dick needs to hit. When I’m on top it’s grinding and getting my nipples played with and sucked that gets me there so quickly. But I can also cum with him on top and have cum doggy style. Fingering, eating me out, and even just getting my nipples overstimulated can make me cum…. I must be a unicorn.
My wife can’t stop cumming when she’s on top and I just don’t. I’d like to help you out and give you what you want. Have fun.
You get the angle and thrust of your need, plus grinding of required magnitude to take you to the edge and boom!
Leaning all the way forward so your torsos are basically parallel instead of perpendicular offers a lot more clitoral contact with his pelvis/pubic mound area, and it’s also way more intimate to be able to face to face and kiss him or put your tits in his face/mouth while you ride him. Wedging something underneath his butt or back might help you find a better angle for clit stimulation too. Also, using a little vibe wand is pretty easy in that position so that can always help! Good luck and have fun!
My wife uses her hand on her self while on top.
My girlfriend loves it when I rub / caress her clit while she’s on top. I recommend this option. I think it’s a good choice, because it’s good for both of you.
I was in my 30s before I figured out how to accomplish this. For me, it takes s couple of thi gs:
1. I have to lean forward to get it started usually but can get started sitting straight up sometimes
2. The guy has to help slide me back and forth. Not up and down. Back and forth.
3. This helps me personally find the right angle to really drive it home with a good grind where I’m getting off too.
I also have worried about whether that even feels good for the man. But I can confidently say it must because it’s never hindered them from getting off and once you get that angle right you can really get your rocking down good. And I know damn well they are all about it lol. At least from my experiences.
For me though the key is having a partner that can move the right way with you.
I stimulate my clit with a vibrator while I ride my husband.
Back and forward motion, not up and down for me… gets g-spot. Average to smaller size works best for me. Nipple play at the same time works.
I recommend leaning forward a bit more so your clit grinds on his pubic bone. Then just go slow and steady at a pace that suits you. Alternatively get on top and and either you or him hold a vibrator to your clit while you ride. The direct clit stimulation should be enough to get you there. Either way works. Personally I love when my wife uses the vibrator while she rides. I just lay back, hold on for dear life and enjoy the show. Her going to town and cumming on my cock is honestly the hottest thing I’ve ever experienced. Have fun figuring it out!
Penis in Vagina sex is not how most women cum. As a matter of statistics it is a minority of women who can cum this way.
And it is about the distance between the vaginal canal and the clit differing from woman to woman. However it could be that your positioning is wrong. If you’re on top as a woman, grinding back and forth rather than bouncing up and down should stimulate you more.
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But if you really want an orgasm with a partner it is time for him or her to start using their hands or mouth.
I like to be laying on my side and the man enter me from behind. I can lift my leg and drape it over his thigh while I’m rubbing my clit. I will grind my hips while he’s laying still because he’s hitting my g-spot. I’ve squirted a few times this way.
One of my friend expressed grief,she has never cum, unless on top…
Orgasms must be enjoyed with different positions,speeds …
Experiment with own pleasure
My all time fave position is to have my bf sit up straight and I sit on him. I grind/go up and down while rubbing my clit on his pubis or belly! I have seen stars whilst doing this haha. I also love it because it feels so intimate and close. He can cuddle me and put his face into my neck while I have fun haha
I love to lean back when I’m on top so my clit is being stimulated internally (“g spot”) & stimulate my clit externally simultaneously (vibe or fingers) & just do what feels best for you. He’s going to be able to orgasm, slowing down won’t ruin anything for him, so just take time to move in a way that you find most enjoyable. Figure out what you *really* like. It is largely mental too. Once you are able to even once it will happen more and more often until it’s just a normal thing which then turns into multiple orgasms. Which can be hard to believe right now but I find this is true for a lot of women. Some mention leaning forward & grinding your clit on him – I fugging hate that 😂 so you may hate my advice too, but it was worth it to me to take the time to share with you. Best of luck, girl 🥰
Usually with their vaginas.
I can’t get off on top. My clit doesn’t line up with anything to get stimulation, I’ve tried.
Once you’re on top & have him inside you, try leaning your lower torso/pelvis forward. Sink your hips down towards his stomach. This can be a good moment to give/get a smooch, too. Then while leaning forward/pelvis tilted down, slide your butt like you’re going to slide down onto his legs. Test how far you can go with him still inside you.
Slide back forward towards his stomach. You can either lift upwards and sink back down if penetration is an important sensation for you, or slide forward and back, tilting your pelvis forward so everything is scraping along his body.
Another approach is to sit upright on him, with him inside. Make smaller forward/back motions with your hips. You play with your hair, breasts, pose a little to feel pretty. Have him use his thumb to play with your clit, grab your hips, and maybe even press down with one hand against your lower abdomen while using his other hand to play with your clit.