Hey, I’m a male and I’ve got a pretty good female friend. We’ve known each other for a couple of years and get along really well. We can talk about everything, and we also do a lot of stuff together. (We both want to just be friends, nothing more.) But we don’t have any topics to talk about because we’ve already talked about “everything.” When I’m out with the boys, it never gets boring, and there’s always stuff to talk about. Do you know any topics or something we can have a conversation about? When we meet, we always have small talk in the beginning and talk about new things and what’s going on, but there is no deep talk like there was before.
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A Hallmark of being a close friend is finding silence comfortable vs it being awkward.
Perhaps you just don’t find your friend’s conversation very stimulating, and vice versa.
Find hobbies or sports you can do together.
Ask her to recommend books, shows, movies, podcasts ect. that she enjoys. Then you’ll have a shared interest that you can discuss regularly. This works especially well for ongoing tv shows or podcasts so whenever you meet up, you can talk about the latest episode.
You can also try asking her questions about her life because the answers aren’t always going to be the same. Ask her about her hobbies, work/school, other friends, family ect. Try to remember what she said last time so you can follow up.
Try asking her for advice. It doesn’t matter what about. Family stuff or what color suits you or how she stays organized. Pretty much any topic.
Can’t force talk really. Try new things with her, like a cooking class, you can meet new people together. Doing new shit means new shit to talk about next time you hang out.
I have a book & a stack of cards that are “what if questions” & regardless if I’m with friends of 10 years or 10 months they make us think, learn new things about each other, & laughter is guaranteed!! Sounds cheesy I know but it has always turned into great memories and stories.
Oh, it seems like you’ve reached the dreaded small talk plateau. How about discussing conspiracy theories involving cats secretly running the world? Meow-some topic!
Well, it sounds like you’ve reached the dreaded conversational plateau. Fear not, my friend! How about discussing the existential crisis of bananas wearing turtlenecks? It’s both deep and practical!
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