I (M23) am a virgin and everytime I think about eating pussy, it seems to be disgusting to me. I wouldn’t mind fingerings a girl but eating pussy isn’t something I would want to do. To be fair, I would also be ok with a girl giving me a hand job instead of a blowjob. Since I’m not a fan of eating pussy, my solution to the problem is to buy a good quality vibratory (somewhere around $100) and use that as foreplay until she orgasams a couple of times, the transition to PIV sex.
Is this a good idea ?
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If you’re a virgin and haven’t done it how do you know it’s disgusting? Do you think blowjobs are also disgusting
Maybe try shagging someone who has a dick?
Opinions can change, you might think that eating a pussy is gross now, but when you’ll try it and see what satisfaction you can deliver, maybe you’ll learn to like it.
More meals for me
If you cba to put effort into a woman’s pleasure (not only through oral) then you don’t deserve the pussy in the first place I’m afraid. Use a pro instead
Nothing better than eating a nice wet pussy. I couldn’t imagine sex without it.
I would recommend to try sex first and make elaborate plans later, since your opinion might change. Don’t stress it too much.
I mean I see where you’re coming from I guess. Some people just aren’t into oral sex. Understandable to think it’s gross. You’re putting your mouth/tongue on someone’s genitalia and ingesting their bodily fluids/secretions pretty much. I think it’s hot though
Boy, you’re really going to miss out nothing like eating at the Y, but more for the rest of us grown-ups
You gotta try first but its ok to not like some sex acts like oral. I still think its weird people in this sub praise “only do what ypu are confortable with” and “you like what you like” and then make fun of people who dont like oral
Nothing feels like oral except oral. If a woman wants oral, there will be no substitute.
But there’s women who don’t like it.
Date one of those
That’s fine. There a plenty of women who don’t like receiving oral. However I wonder if you think blowjobs are disgusting? If not, maybe you have an issue with the female anatomy that’s worth unpacking.
The issue you are asking about is legit enough, not everyone likes it and that’s fair. But seeing your wording of the issue, I think you are missing the whole point of sex (which is also fair enough, since you haven’t tried it).
It can be absolutely okay to never perform oral on your partner; it depends entirely on the person, some would prefer you not to, some would be okay with it, for some it would be a deal breaker. But “just” using a vibrator and “calling it a day” sounds like you don’t want to make any effort. And y’know, effort is sexy. Doing extra to satisfy your partner is super hot. Not only for your partner, but it’s also what makes sex rewarding for you.
So I would say this. You don’t HAVE to do anything. It should be possible a partner that is compatible with whatever boundary you may have or at least for whom it’s not a deal breaker. But you will never have a good sex life if you don’t work on making them happy. Just like you can’t have a good relationship without putting the actual hard work, so the life you create for the two of you is good and satisfying for both of you. Good luck!
If you have never experienced it, I don’t see how you can fairly judge it. There are lots of ladies that will not find a toy an adequate substitute. I don’t want a toy instead of oral sex. No way.
Sure, as long as you communicate with the girl.
But wait so you’re a virgin, is this all hypothetical? Or do you already have a girlfriend, or are you buying your way out of virginity?
there are women who find being eaten out gross and those who require it and its deal breaker for them.
Ignore the others, this subreddit can be surprisingly judgy
I used to be apprehensive about it too, but the main thing you fear is a lack of hygiene
Vagina juice isn’t the same as sweat. Once you’ve done it you’ll probably find the inverse, and that it’s oddly fun
Girls can be quite self conscious about odours themselves, so they’ll often go to lengths to be clean and ensure they’re hygienic if they feel you’ll have sex
I always considered oral sex (giving and receiving it) disgusting as a virgin. Once I tried it I loved it. The level of intimacy and connection with your partner once you do it it’s amazing. I suggest you don’t rule it out until you tried it. But if you discover you don’t like it after all, there’s a lot of woman out there who don’t like oral. That will make it easier for you, sexual compatability wise.
I think what bothers me about your question is the lack of awareness on your part. You’re already assuming you’re not going to like something you haven’t tried. There’s many advantages of getting up close and personal with a woman’s pussy. Discovery and curiosity go a long way to pleasing a partner, not just sticking a couple of fingers in there and hope for the best. More troubling is the assumption all you need is a vibrator to satisfy her without having a discussion first about her needs or what she likes. Considering her first by asking goes a long way to relaxing her mind and body. Feeling safe and secure in these situations goes a long way to helping both of you get what you want.
Use a vibrator and call it a day?
Damn dude you don’t have to give oral but you sound like a horrible partner , just checking off a list so you can get to sex?
Don’t knock it til you try it. Using a wand or vibrator instead of just going down on her will likely seem a bit awkward unless you’ve been in the relationship with them for a while.
Idk how you would even form this opinion without having tried it. Eating pussy is great though. Not going to lie, the opposite sex’s genitalia is weird at first just because it’s so unfamiliar (both for males and females seeing each other for the first time). But that feeling goes away almost immediately as you discover how amazing and beautiful it actually is.