Whenever I (31F) get myself off it’s never as ‘deep’ feeling as when I’m with my fwb. It serves well enough to take the edge off but it’s like I’m not done, done. It feels..surface level, nothing deep. Doesn’t matter what toys I use or just my hand, it’s ultimately unsatisfying and I *need* to be fucked. And depending on the time of the month when my libido is at its highest, it makes things worse than better.
I feel like I’m doing something wrong lol does anyone else have this problem?
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Yeah this is pretty standard, and I’m a man. Dancing solo will never be as wonderful as with a partner, that’s just how it is, otherwise why else would people want sex so much over masturbation?
Definitely. Our biggest sex organ is the brain, which craves that connection. So many more yummy brain chemicals when that partner element is in play.
I do find that I can *almost* get there if I either fantasize about the partner or include them remotely (like in a call or sexting).
But never as good as when they are coming up for air between my legs 🥹