Struggling to get over someone I only went out with for a month

I (26/F) met someone (33/M) on an app that I had instant chemistry with. I’m very extroverted and chatty, he’s introverted and witty. We had a fantastic first date of dinner and a walk, then a second date at a park. He messaged me after explaining that he really likes me, but he plans to move closer to home, which is a 2.5hr train ride from where I currently live. He told me he thinks it would be the end of the relationship, and so he’d like to go on more dates, but can’t commit. I was fine with it as long as he understood I am looking for something long-term, and so I’d continue dating other people until I found someone or he’d consider exclusivity.

We then had another great third date, more walks in the park and grabbing drinks. Between that we texted all day, I’ve never had so much banter with someone.

Then about four days later he texted me that he has to break things off because he knows he wants to move soon, and he thinks if we get more involved the break-up will hurt too badly. I wanted to explain 2.5hrs isn’t the worst long distance, and he also doesn’t even have a job lined up back home. But instead I just wished him well.

I’m sort of regretting not convincing him now, or speaking my side. I have gone on so many dates that fizzle out, or the guy becomes rude/dry, or I date them and within a few weeks they’re horrible to be around. This was the first time I met what felt like a genuine guy who was smart and funny and shared my interests. It’s taking so much for me not to reach back out. Hell, he could have given me this as an excuse to nicely break up. So many what ifs. I just need some advice to talk me down.

**tl;dr:** Guy I had great chemistry with broke up with me because he eventually wants to move nearly 4hrs away, and felt we were destined to break up over it. I miss him and want to explain I’d do long distance, but I know I deserve someone enthusiastic to date me. Just need talked down.