I am less experienced man.
If I am having sex with a girl, do they expect me to keep my penis inside them the whole time.
Or it’s okay to take multiple breaks to kiss, cuddle with them and it’s okay for penis to come out of vagina during it (even for 5-10 minutes at a time).
The reason I want to do is so I don’t cum too quickly.
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Everything you said can be done. You have to get out of her when you change positions anyway, right? And doing different positions during sex is amazing.
No. Sex is more than just intercourse. There’s a whole lot more to it, there’s making out and grinding and oral and toys, etc, none of which require a penis to be involved.
5-10 mins for a break seems fairly long to me. Are you prolonging things for your own benefit or for her? Cause if it’s the latter you may wanna discuss this before doing it- some people might like it but others would feel frustrated. Cumming quick is no sin so long as you help her finish some other way!
This is what me and my husband do. Though not for as long as you said. 5mins is about what we do.
And maybe not so much cuddling, but he will pull out for a bit, kiss my body, kiss me, he likes to nibble on my legs and kiss them, maybe go down on me a little, switch positions, even grab a drink of water.
It helps him with stamina and it makes me feel really good and makes his own climax super intense.
We spend several hours in bed. We suck, fuck, lick, tease, talk, laugh and have fun. We don’t fuck the entire time and the sex is amazing.
You might risk losing your erection
I say there are no rules. Do what feels best for both of you.
I think it’s good to avoid thinking of penetration being “real sex” and “foreplay” being something else you do before the real thing. As long as your partner consents you can stop and start penetration whenever you want, switch between that and oral sex or fingering. Use a toy instead of your dick half the time, and switch between them. Some women are going to want to be pounded nonstop but heaps of women will get off really hard on a less “phallocentric” approach.
Try not to think about how long you going to last, it can create a performance anxiety and shut down your sex drive completely.
When someone says they had sex for an hour, they generally don’t mean penetration for an hour. Breaks so you don’t cum fast are fine. Sex is way more than just penetration. Taking breaks to kiss cuddle, explore. It’s not solely about penetration.
sex is way more than just actual “banging”. for me it’s a whole experience emotionally and physically. i know a lot of guys think it’s just about penetrating but the other part is just as important if not even more. sexy is very mental for a girl.
If your young, you might be able to recover and get up and go again.
Depends on the woman. But staying in penetration the whole time sounds like a nightmare to me.
Normally I have some foreplay, Making out, oral, etc then try to finish with penetration. But penetration can be tiring. Especially if you are on top. Just do your best and if you need a break take it.
I get the best reviews when my partner has climaxed (often from oral) before I even start penetration. But ask her what she likes. I’ve definitely done it as you describe, but it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. If you’re worried about lasting (who isn’t?) I do recommend the long foreplay/massage/oral, and then a short period of intercourse is basically dessert rather than the main course.
Sex is about being comfortable, feeling good, having fun. Do what you’re comfortable with. Don’t doubt yourself. Talk with your partner to see if she’s okay with the breaks. I bet you’re doing great if you want to have so much intimacy throughout sex. That sounds beautiful and hot!
I think it’s hot when a guy goes from penetration to going down on me and me going down on him.
Yes, it’s definitely okay to not penetrate at all in the beginning and just focus on foreplay, sometimes that could be the best part. And then when sex does start, it’s okay to take it out if you feel like you’re really tired or if you’re going to cum too soon. That kind of thing will just come naturally. You don’t have to define it ahead of time.
I think you may have gotten the false impression that women want to be penetrated and fucked for extended periods of time. While that can certainly be fun sometimes you should know that the average for most couples is around five minutes.Some of course go much longer and some shorter. The thing is sex doesn’t have to end when penetration does.
Umm if you need to pause don’t let her interest drop, kiss sure, cuddling would piss me off if I was then expected to get back in the mood. You wna be asking the girl these things anyway.
Takeaway point is if you wna be good at sex, please your partner. Find out from them how to do that
No but every partner is different. I know one girl who insisted I should be more selfish (ie- fuck) because I was having fun eating her out ,which she also enjoyed but I guess at some point she just needs getting boned down.
And also may have been under the impression I was cunnilingin’ out of duty rather than pleasure
As a woman i do not become fully turned on before sex. I need physical stimulation and for that to be maintained for me to be at my peak arousal which in turn leads to the most pleasure. I would not want penetration right away nor would I want to take a break from being stimulated pre orgasm. I could very much loose my arousal mid play if not stimulated and my interest may wain because it’s takes effort physically and mentally to get fully aroused. Once you gradually increase arousal to fully aroused keep her there. That does not mean penetration- but never stop stimulating her. That could also mean she stimulates herself if other things are happening (bj, mutual masterbation).
There’s an art to the act itself. It’s like a dance- go out on the dance floor and try different moves. If it suits you, and your partner jives with it, then you’ll have a great time.
Well every girl is different but I think that’s fine especially if you are going down on her / any other type of play while you’re out. But I’d just be upfront and say you don’t wanna cum fast so would she be fine with that, if not, ask what she suggests. 🙂 communication is key
The average time for penetration is usually 5-15 min. Most men have orgasms in that time range. The rest is foreplay, cuddling, oral, etc… Many women can get sore or even numb with prolonged periods of penetration.
sex is much more than putting your dick in. In fact that is the part that usually doesn’t last long, that is just the ending. Foreplay IMO is much more important and should be longer than actual intercourse because many woman don’t cum from penetration.
Do whatever makes sense for you and your partner. The internet at large isn’t having sex with you; your partner is.
Honestly foreplay is the best part for many women (not saying we don’t enjoy penetration- it’s just not the main event). Kissing and touching, oral, fingering, etc are all tons of fun and an important part of getting her turned on.
But honestly I’d say the best piece of advice is to ask her what she likes! Also, look up erogenous zones on women. There’s way more than you’d think.
I like 30 minutes of non-vaginal for every 5 minutes of vaginal, in other words fuck no you’re not expected to be inside the whole time. Whatever happened to making out, teasing, massaging, breast worship, oral (both ways), moving from the couch to the shower to the bed, water and snack breaks?
Other things that make it better for the woman that you might not have thought of: lube. Clean washcloths and fluffy towels. Water and snacks as mentioned. Fresh linens. Privacy.