I just finished graduate school and I definitely lost touch with a core group of my friends. I knew it was the right decision to focus on my program but now I feel a bit out of touch and find myself not being present during hangouts and cast myself out in a way. I almost feel like I don’t belong or just can’t relate.
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Same thing happened to me except I was doing my undergrad. Had a solid core friend group at home but I moved to a new city to finish my undergrad for 2 years. I then moved back home but basically lost connection with that solid core friend group. Before I moved, we would hang out everyday. But during those 2 years, they all got closer without me and now when we hang (which is like once every 3 months now) they have all these inside jokes and you can tell I’m the “3rd wheel”
I wouldn’t say you don’t belong. Can’t relate, yeah maybe. But life basically moved on and took you on a different route. Nothing bad with that at all. That’s life.
I would just focus on yourself. Focus on work. Find people who have the same interests as you now and network with those people. Then you’ll have a new circle of friends with similar interests.
For me, after graduating I got a job in marketing. All my old friends I used to hang with are in healthcare. Now I hang with people in marketing and it’s great because I can grow.