I didn’t know where to post this but I decided to do it on here, since it’s an insecurity that has some relation to people. So my problem is that I don’t have a passion or hobbies. In my spare time I do all sorts of ordinary things (watch movies, read, listen to music, stare at the wall and think. also I’m a huge homebody). I have a friend who ALWAYS talks about how she likes people who have a passion and are interesting. When she says this, I always feel triggered. It’s not her fault but I do. And this thing is an insecurity because I feel boring and like i can’t be liked by people. Everyone boasts off about their hobbies and I just stand there, listen to them but add nothing about my interests. I don’t even know where I’m going with this but I guess I want some insight. Are hobbies so important to connect with people and be liked? I feel the pressure to start some activities just for the sake of telling people I do x y thing
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Staring at a wall is a hobby wdym. Also, I dont think you should do anything you don’t actually enjoy just for the sake of having something to talk about. But yeah, you should definitely try different things, you never know you might stumble upon something you feel passionate about. Take care.
When they talk about their hobbies, listen and engage with them, ask them questions about it and why they like it so much. That’s all people want most of the time…and maybe you’ll find that you want to give one of their hobbies a try too, but what you listed are still hobbies (reading, movies, music, thinking) you can talk about
Do whatever you want and whatever you like. Don’t be pressured by other people’s opinion. We don’t give a fuck about what they thinking. Do what you enjoy the most
Hobbies are things you enjoy doing. So if you enjoy watching the paint dry – that is a hobby.
Some people feel more passion/excitement/”loud” while others (hi) tend to be more of a “silent” enjoyer and are content with the stuff they do.
So basically, you think you are boring because your expressions are more “silent” than “loud”. For me the “loud” expressions tend to be tiring. It’s a bit of a cat/dog thing: people think that cats are unfriendly because they express their love in a more “quiet” manner. A dog will jump around you and be excited, while a cat will spend hours sititng on your lap while you watch tv.
I would absolutely consider watching movies, reading, and listening to music to be hobbies. In fact, since they’re such common hobbies, they can easily provide a common talking point for friends and people you meet. Just because a hobby isn’t unique, niche, or exciting doesn’t make it any less of a hobby, and having an atypical hobby doesn’t automatically make someone interesting.