They show no body language indicating that they’re there to talk. So I don’t talk to them. Very rarely do I approach someone who appears standoffish.
This is what is taught in social skills, if they aren’t there to socialize, don’t socialize. This is contradictory because I know I have to take the risk and violate that social rule and approach them. Then why do they teach this as a social skill that you don’t approach women unless they show interest?
It’s really confusing.
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>It’s really confusing.
Obviously. You’re ***not*** supposed to approach ***unapproachable*** women. You’re supposed to approach ***approachable*** ones. Your problem is “there” is vague here. If you want approachable women, go places where they’re “there” to socialize. That’s not the workplace, for example. So, guys do things like mistake baristas who are being paid to be nice and friendly, i.e. approachable, for being in a “there” that is for socializing, and women in customer service roles deal with all kinds of unwanted come-ons.
You have to learn the places where women are “there” to be approached (what those are, I don’t really know–speed dating??), and…if all else fails, that’s what online dating is for, however biased it may be in favor of conventionally attractive people.