PSA: You don’t have to convince anyone you are worthy and loveable

There is nothing wrong with seeking out a partner to enhance your life and provide an additional opportunity for both giving and receiving love.

Dating is not and should not be used as a litmus test to find out if you’re loveable or a platform to prove that you’re worthy of someone else’s attention. Why? Because you will attract those who will play you then ghost you because they will treat you accordingly. If you already see yourself deficient in any kind of way and you’re hoping being taken out on a nice date or having a loving, attentive partner will soothe those feelings for you, it won’t.

The main reason why, after 20 years of playing the game, I attracted less than stellar partners and allowed myself to be mistreated and accepted breadcrumbs of what I thought was love was because I subconsciously put out the vibe and told them, “Because I don’t truly love myself or value myself, you should treat me the same way.” So they did.

Trust, if someone can’t or is not willing to recognize your worth, move on. If you make someone else your priority while you remain their option (or one of many others), move on. Being alone is painful, but it is a million times better than trying to convince someone of your worth.