I have Alexithymia and struggle with empathy. Meanwhile that is not the immediate excuse for the title I’ve been an introvert all of my life. I’m not shy, I’ll speak up if I feel the need to but everytime there’s a conversation going, whenever if it’s small talk or not, I just don’t feel like talking and listen as they speak. When they complain about an annoying occurrence they encountered at work I don’t know what to comment, like most things etc. This never bothered me until now. But I’m not old; these years are supposed to be the ones where I socialize and thrive as a young adult, be reckless when I still can.
My disinterested is clear to the person I converse with, meanwhile some get offended by my response some were alright with it. I can’t exactly put it into words but I feel like I’m missing out and wasting my years. Being this grumpy can’t be good for someone my age. I figured there might be people more experienced than I am so I ask; what should I do and change to break this cycle?
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I used to think conversation are usually boring and un- interesting and a waste of time too especially small talk! So I would always try to steer away or steer conversation with an intellectual one. Not until I came across a TikTok that explained how small talks are never about what the small talk is about but it’s more about connecting with people. Sometimes people talk to you so that they can feel human connection. Just like how sometimes people could have googled a question but instead they rather approach people with their questions so that they could connect with them. It’s human needs … hopefully my two cents gives some insight