Every single day I just feel more and more unqualified and like a loser, and the interactions with other people don’t help. I’m a 16 year old high school junior, and all my life I had to pretend to be like other people in order to make any real ‘friends’. Public speaking everywhere else is just terrible. One example is when today, I stuttered heavily during my leadership speech, and no one else that was part of leadership did. Everyone looked at me funny, as if I was not qualified to be in that position. And every other day its always another awkward situation caused by me. If this doesn’t get fixed and I learn how to act like people, I will really be miserable for the rest of my life.

2 comments

  1. I have terrible social skills as well my friend. Your not alone. But you are very young on one hand which shows that you can easily grow into your true vocal abilities. I hope you find happiness with your situation one day!

  2. I mean, you literally get better and less nervous with practice, right. So it’s really common for people to grow out of social awkwardness eventually if they keep at it and don’t isolate themselves. It becomes mere routine like a lot of things that are difficult when you’re young.

    So right now it seems like your understanding of social skills is to be more like other people so you will be liked. Which, you know. Put plainly it seems kinda absurd, right?

    But I understand it’s really hard to just switch gears if you have shakey self-esteem or unbearable anxiety and whatnot. There’s all kinds of literature on this topic, but even an online therapist can teach you what you can do, and they’re relatively accessible even where medical care is absent. Just something to consider. It naturally feels hopeless if you don’t even know where to begin, even if intellectually you know most people get better.

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