Do you consider OnlyFans subscriptions cheating?

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1. I would be more disappointed in finding out he was a simp.

   I would consider it cheating.

2. I wont consider it cheating, but I will consider it stupid that a man will pay for porn when he can get it for free like WTF.

   Tell him to stop paying for porn like a looser

3. Has your partner interacted with someone?

4. Yes. He’s paying another woman for sexual content. It’s a betrayal on two levels, really.

   After I was done being hurt I think I’d just be turned off. What a loser.

5. 1000%

   Pathetic behaviour.

6. Did you speak to him about this?

7. If it wasn’t agreed on ahead of time, I would feel betrayed. Straight up cheating… not sure. But I’d be upset for sure.

8. I have nothing against porn or sexual pictures. There is so much free content, that he could look for weeks to come.

   Paying someone specifically to get content wouldn’t sit right with me. That’s a step to far. Let’s be honest here… only fans is in my eyes sexwork. So I would see it as he is starting to engage in sexwork.

   Sit him down and have a serious chat with him. If this is one of your boundaries, he needs to accept them.

9. Yep. And financial infidelity. Gross.

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11. No its just porn. Alot of people have favorites porn actors and thats all they watch. People would only say its cheating because of the jealousy of spending money on a another woman. But they wont say that out loud. Now if yall are broke its a problem, but if yall have the money, its not a big deal

12. I would consider any kind of transactional relationship with a sex worker to be cheating.

13. I would have an issue with my husband being so invested in another person sexually. To subscribe to someone’s OF, I almost feel you have an obsession with that person specifically. And $30 is on the pricier side. This is different than watching random women for free on PornHub. Again, it’s giving he’s too invested in this adult actress/obsessed

14. Yes and just stupid and a waste of money

15. If you feel betrayed, its cheating. No one else’s opinion on it matters. With that being said, I wouldn’t be okay with this and I would look at my husband like he was a skeeze.

16. Yes, I would.

17. I absolutely do. It’s the same level as a dating site. They are looking for something they shouldn’t be.

18. Yes. Gross.

19. In a vacuum no. I have subscribed to some pornographic outlets throughout our relationship (not just onlyfans). I haven’t hidden this from my wife nor would I feel bad about it if I found out she was doing it. At the end of the day I look at it like paying for a service. When I pay for content it is usually because the person creating something more enjoyable to me than what I can get for free. It doesn’t mean I’m planning to secretly run away with the creator or anything. I use adult material when my wife is unwilling or unable to have sex with me for whatever reason. To me being concerned about a spouse watching or subscribing to a porn creator is on par with me being concerned that my wife is going to run away with the plumber or the mechanic. It’s possible but unlikely.

    I disagree with a lot of the comments saying that it’s cheating because it’s money going to some other person outside the relationship. I don’t mind spending money on this because it’s my only vice. I don’t drink. I don’t smoke. I don’t take drugs. I cover the majority of the expenses in our home and make a point to put money away for savings and eventually a down payment on our first home. Since getting married, the most I’ve spent on adult content is about $50 per month. My wife spends at least 2x that amount on her hair and nails. She also buys liquor every few weeks. I don’t really tell her what to do with her hair nails and I don’t drink. Those purchases benefit her specifically. The $50 I spend on something for me is greatly dwarfed by the money I spend on the household/my wife and it’s dwarfed by the amount my wife spends on stuff for herself. I paid $2000 on my wife’s credit card balance last month in addition to all of our regular bills. Even though it’s her debt I’m not requiring her to give up her hair/makeup stuff to pay it because we can afford to do both. If you and your husband aren’t struggling financially I would ask why the $30 a month bothers you so?

20. Absolutely yes.

21. Does he understand you’re hurt? Is he willing to cancel the subscription now that you’re aware?