Im an 18year old virgin women, and when i masturbate, it really doesn’t last long.
For example ill get really wet and touch myself briefly then ill feel good but nothing extraordinary and after like a second i don’t feel anything else if i keep touching. Idk if this is just how it is and if im just built different but yea.
Ive also noticed that if i like do it in the shower i get wayyyyy more feeling and it lasts hella long so i assume i orgasm when i do that but then does that mean i don’t when i masturbate with hands or toys?? I use a lil egg vibrator thingy and the second it touches im done.
Please lmk how i can “fix” this issue i wanna be able to masturbate for longer
Feel free to ask any questions
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Usually there are more women complaining about how long it takes them to reach orgasm.
For some people just the thought of sex or masturbation puts them in a heighten state.
Odds are if you ever have sex with an 18-year-old or young guy he’s not going to last long either.
You might try teasing yourself by not directly going to your magic spot but instead working around it to build up the tension and possibly stopping and restarting before climaxing.
You’re going to learn in time that not orgasms are the same when it comes intensity and length of sensation. The best sex usually comes from simply *feeling* instead of *thinking*.
Overthinking or being concerned about anything other than the moment detracts from pleasure.
I recall having an ex who used to always strive for us to cum together. So, when she was on the verge of cumming she’d tried to avoid doing so instead of allowing her body to go with its natural flow. Sometimes by the time she came the intensity was much lower or I came, and she didn’t. Trying to “control orgasm” timing or intensity is a very frustrating challenge.
It’s better for most women to just let it rip. When the guy cums the session is usually over.
Best wishes!
As far as reaching an orgasm — the female will have involuntary contractions of her anus sphincter muscle and also the vaginal canal will squeeze— rhythmically for about 15-30 seconds and you will feel a rush of pleasure and often have a flush of vaginal fluid released.
It’s worth considering that you are not having an orgasm, and that the vibe is a bit too strong for you.
You’re solid babygirl.
Don’t worry about it, that’s à Mans game –
When you expérience sex with another person your âge,
They won’t be listing that long anyway. They may also go
Down on you, you could really REALLY like them and just
Be hella horny around them — soo many variables. Just know
That how you feel when you masturbate isn’t like for like when it
Comes to the deed
It doesn’t sound much like an orgasm in either scenario, really.
Are you sure you’re having an orgasm? I’m going to guess that you might be moving too fast and your toys may be overpowering making you numb. This is super common and easy to fix! I would take the concerns about how long your lasting and if you’re orgasming off the table and try to see masturbating as exploring pleasure in general. Start very slowly by setting the mood. Get time alone when you feel relaxed. Mental state is a huge part of this so take care of yourself and get comfy. Focus on sensual touch, use only your hands and enjoy all parts of your body, your breast, abdomen, thighs, whatever, and only move to your genitals with underwear or a sheet as a barrier. Really explore how different pressure feels, the ways you can tease yourself, and feeling your body respond. Build super slowly and just focus on enjoying it with no goal of orgasm. Try without toys or only introduce toys when you feel like you NEED more sensation and use them on the lowest setting, building up. Orgasm is a release of built up tension and if you don’t build the tension there’s won’t be a satisfying release. That being said, some people can only orgasm with toys and that’s totally normal, so use them for sure, just make sure to build up. Lastly, toys can vary so much. If you think it might be the toy, try something new. Vibrators can be more buzzy or rumbly and some prefer toys that do other things like clit suction. Masturbating and sex are amazing things and you have your whole life to orgasm, but really it’s like the cherry on top of a pleasure sundae…. There’s so much more there to enjoy!