Hey all, first time ever asking for advice like this as this hasn’t happened before. My partner and I went to have sex for the first time and he simply couldn’t get it in. Just looking for advice on how to approach this.
He’s only had sex once, and I’ve had sex countless times with one partner (so I consider myself somewhat experienced). We got going and did some foreplay, but we couldn’t get the right angle to get it in. We tried missionary, doggy style, and cowgirl (which have worked many time for me in the past), and each time just wouldn’t work. I think we went through about 5 condoms trying to get it and as time went on, he just kept getting soft as we tried it.
He’s by no mean *huge*. Probably about 4 inches, but very girthy. But he’s only about an inch shorter than my ex, who had 0 issues getting it in. Similarly, we’re both overweight, but my ex was as well. So I’m not really sure why this wouldn’t work. I’m 5’1 and he’s 6 foot.
That said, we really want this intimacy. Sex is important to me, and I want to share this moment with him. Can anyone give any advice for how to approach this? What could be the cause of it? Any positions, exercises, etc. that we can try? Any alternatives while we’re working up to this?
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Two things to do: First, you take him and guide him in. Second, even with a condom put a little lube (Saliva is fine) on the tip of him and he’ll go right in.
Good luck.