Hi, I’m finally getting back to dating after a while and would love some tips or advice.
I was told approaching guys is “low value” because you already show them interest and they have the ball on their court (or something like that), but I find this guy cute and I kinda want to try.
He doesn’t know me, we have some mutuals, one is an athlete from the same field as him. He has an open profile, I have a private one. So.. Do I follow him or.. like some of his pics? Is that too invasive? How do you guys usually do this? Is it really weird if I show my interest? I do not want to dm him.
I know rejection and embarassment is a veeeeery possible outcome since he is an attractive & successful young dude, but hey. You don’t know until you try.
Tips welcome!
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I mean if you don’t want to dm him and you have a private profile the only way he’ll know you exist is if you follow him. You can try doing that and waiting a day or two to see if he follows back then maybe start interacting with his new content.
Follow him, wait if he follows you back (that’s a small sign of interest) &if you want to send a few more small hints then like his story every so often. If you want to give a big clue then like 3 of his recent pictures.
>I was told approaching guys is “low value”
This is a moronic take, and I’d not take any advice from those who suggest this. Just send him a message. You don’t have to make the first message complicated! Just send an introduction with a smile or something like that.
Just ask him, if he’s into you then he’ll respond and make it happen. Men deal with rejection every day, why can’t women have some balls every once in a while?