Went on a first date tonight (I’m M 25) with a very sweet, pretty and awesome girl (F 22). But I’m afraid I’m a bit too wild for her.

Some back story, I have had a very wild, party filled life. Not the best up bringing, and have had my struggles with addiction, I’ve been to juvie, been to jail, and I do enjoy the party life style. (Trying to keep this post short) The last couple girls I’ve dated have done me pretty dirty (cheated quite a few times) and it is what it is. One of them was an “entertainer” and the other was also a party girl, and the last one just got out of jail… and that’s generally what I kind of end up being attracted to and hanging out with for a while.

So this super sweet and very pretty girl approached me at the bar I’m at almost every night (it’s was her first time there) asked me for my number, then asked me out a few days later, and tonight we had our first date. Honestly I was super nervous, and it went very well! She was very sweet and very respectful, asked me out on a second date, and genuinely went well.

A few things I’m worried about is I did bring up some experiences with recreational substances, which she asked me about and I told her it was only an occasional thing (which is true). She did express some concerns about that which is totally fair, but it is part of the life I live, and have lived. She told me about her up bringing which was super Mormon and very conservative and I had the total opposite. Without going into further detail, I do like this girl and really like her genuine interest in getting to know me. But I think in the long run I don’t deserve someone like that. We had a very drunk guy come up to us and start chatting (which is very common at this bar) and she thought it was just the craziest thing, but it was a very normal experience for me.

I’m not sure if this is something I should pursue, because I’m afraid of being “too much” or steering her in a wrong direction. Deep down I feel like I should just let her go, but I do like her. Any advice?

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  1. Its always her decision if you are too much for her. Not yours. You can just be open and let her decide.

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