I am 21f I’ve never dated anyone romantically but I feel comfortable by myself and hanging out with friends. However, I sometimes think that I might ended up alone forever if I stay in my comfort zone. I want to have a special connection with someone, but just thinking about it makes me tired. I want to have new experiences but I don’t want to get hurt. I don’t know if I should step out of my comfort zone or just keep things the way they are.
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You need to risk getting hurt, vulnerability is absolutely necessary for emotional intimacy. You will only know if the decision was worth it afterwards.
Thinking about it makes you tired, but that’s because you’re not supposed to be thinking about it. You’re supposed to be doing it.
To me, feeling alive is infinitely better than feeling comfortable. I’ve decided that I can be comfortable (at least in that passive sense when I’m never doing uncomfortable things) when I’m dead. When I’m alive, I want to be alive.
I feel you. I’m a guy and I struggle getting out of the comfort zone. Although I get on with people when I’m out, I spend more time than I should being alone because it’s comfortable, so I end up not meeting enough new people to try to connect with. This is why I’m just starting to post on here because the though makes me slightly uncomfortable.
Sometimes I think about it all as well, but coming to a point where i accept I should be acting. I’d like to give you the right advice but it’s something I’m working through as well, but wanted to reply anyway.