Ok so I have been with my bf for about 2 months now. Our foreplay usually lasts a long time- like 30 mins to an hour. I love how gentle and careful he is with my body, but sometimes After Like 5 mins i just want him to put it in me. But Im shy lol. And I do not like getting on top.
When he does end up putting it in, we usually just stay in missionary and he takes breaks and ends up coming like in 2 mins. Sometimes 5 if there is a condom on. I don’t mind that much because i usually come myself like 2 or 3 times during foreplay, but sometimes I really want to come from sex.
I know part of this is because he is really nervous about having a kid, and I am not on birth control, but when we have sex with a condom he nuts kind of quick and doesn’t fuck me that hard.
I would be perfectly fine going on like this like the intimacy is so good and the foreplay is amazing and he kisses and touches me so passionately, sometimes i just want to be FUCKED though.
How can I communicate with him that I want him to fuck me harder? Without hurting his feelings?? Like I would be fine if he came in one minute I just want rough sex😂.
Also, how can I get over my shyness?? Ive gotten over a lot so far but I just over think a lot when it comes to sex and I think it makes me scared to say stuff to him.
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We have two different issues here: your shyness, and his not lasting a long time. Let’s tackle the first.
You just gotta do it. Sounds easy enough right? Your anxiety is doing everything in its power to stop you from doing something and the only way around it is to do the thing. When you’re on a diving board, you might feel nervous about jumping, so you either get off the board or you jump, and if you don’t want to get off the board, then you jump.
Look him in the eyes and say, “I want you to fuck me.” There isn’t a man alive who wouldn’t be turned on by that. Men love enthusiasm and interaction. It’s a mutually pleasurable experience and we want you just as engaged. We don’t like just *giving* you sex.
Bored with missionary? “Fuck me from behind.” Bored with getting fucked from behind? Go prone and tell him to pound that pussy. It might all seem scary and awkward at first but that’s all in your head. Once you do it you realize it’s not so scary after all, and you just greatly improved your sex life.
As for your boyfriend cumming to quick, he needs to learn how to edge. Get close to cumming, stop yourself. Wash rinse repeat until it’s time to cum. This is a skill that takes a lot of willpower. You have to overcome your body’s natural urge to get that nut when you’re close. He can practice this while masturbating and during sex. This is a skill every guy should learn because it really levels up your sex and masturbation game and leads to much more pleasurable orgasms. Again, it’s a skill that takes time and practice to get better at but it’s worth it.
Just TELL him.
Text him if you can’t… if you’re shy.
We’re guys – We’re very simple like that.