I have noticed that sometimes I will be clueless in situations and have no idea what is going on. I won’t have any knowledge about what is occurring or happening. I won’t know information about people and will just be completely clueless. Also, when people are talking to me and especially on the phone I have a have a hard time listening to them. I will zone out and won’t pay attention to what they are saying to me. I will forget some of the things they said to me after the conversation and won’t remember much because I have a hard time listening to them while they are talking.
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naturally stoned all the time, maybe not so bad, I would roll a $12 blunt to get like that
Pay attention to what is being said than to what you are thinking of saying.
i have the same problem. i am actively trying to fix it. it is really not too big of a problem if you dont have some mental illness causing it. try to be more aware and in the moment. try to be THERE, right where you are, and not in your head. hope this helps
Ask questions; it adds context.
“Paul, that’s Paul Allen, right? He’s a VP you said?”
“He has a business card, for VP I assume?”
“Paul likes Huey Louis? The band that came into their own with that classic hit?”
Not sure how to help for on the phone, except that eliminating distractions is key for any active listening.
So how do you behave during conversations? Are you making enough eye contact? (Not over bearing, but 70% of the time eyes, 20% can be on their mouth, 10% elsewhere. Not in distracting way, but it’s natural to break contact when thinking before responding to a question for example).
Are you physically facing the speaker? There is so much about own physicality that cues the brain to focus in on a particular thing.
When we are focused on something, ie in the flow state, our field of vision narrows, so the focused state only occurs when the subject of our attention is within that narrow field.
Are your thoughts distracting you? It’s important to mentally put other thoughts aside when engaging in a conversation.
How is your sleep? Diet? Energy levels?