Hello everyone. My name is Erin I’m 22 and I’ve been dating my boyfriend [M25] for a few months now. A little while ago we were chatting about things we like in the bedroom and he said that him and his ex liked to explore bdsm , like tying her up whipping her that kinda thing, and that he’d like to do it with me. I was interested so over the last few weeks we’ve bought some stuff like chains and handcuffs and blindfolds that kinda thing. I’m super excited to try it out but I’ve never done anything like this before any advice about what I should do or expect would be great. Or if anyone has any fun ideas they would suggest for us to try I’d really appreciate it
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You’re gonna have to find out if you’re the DOM or the SUB. He might want you to take control. It’ll be fun just be careful. Lol. Too much power can ruin a good thing.
The most important thing is, to have a safe word! You’re exploring something new, which you don’t know if you like it. And neither do you know how your bf turns out in such an scenario. Typical it gets hard and painful in BDSM, at least it does with me, holding the cane, and, as you said in your post, you’ve bought everything that’s gonna make you incapable of resisting whatever your Dom bf is going to administer in you and your body. You will be chained, cuffed, blindfolded and maybe even gagged, you definitely need something to tell him it’s no longer fun or joy for you. Shouting (if even possible), crying, shaking your chains, that won’t do the trick, because it’s part of the play. You need a sign the says STOP! Of course there’s your pussy that gets wet like hell, if she likes something, and who dries out, it you’re turned off by something. And she can’t lie! 🤭 But some guys forget about the necessary control grip….
Besides that, just try what you like and enjoy!
Besides that I think, being blindfolded is a good thing for starters, since it might reduce some (wrong) shame you might otherwise feel.