Here’s the thing, I suck at socializing and I can be a little too blunt at times—like to the point of being rude.
Yesterday, the boss bought this traditional food but in a small amount and told the staff to share it amongst themselves. Thing is the boss is known to be stingy and the staff has had personal encounters of this several times based on my understanding.
They’d been saying that the boss could have bought the food which was like 3 bucks per one packaging for everyone (there’s like 11 people)?
Anyway, the senior staff later bought the same traditional food but in packages for everyone (with their own money) as if to mock the boss for being a boss who makes way more than them and bought like a small amount and told us to share the food amongst ourselves
I’m not for traditional foods and by the end of the day, there’s still a lot of the boss’ food left and I was kind of pressured to eat it but I like, was so tired, I mumbled out “i don’t really like traditional foods, in fact I’ve never eaten it before, it’s just not my thing”.
And I just kept going and the senior staff (who bought the traditional food and gave it to everyone)’s office is like closeby. It didn’t occur to me that she could have heard me say I’m not a fan of the traditional food and took offense in that, esp since she bought it with her money and gave it to everyone (including me).
Today, she never spoke to me and I kind of never speak to her unless she speaks to me first. And I’m like weird, I do little dances around people I’m comfortable with and I did that where she can see me bc I was happy to get some good old chocs with almonds in them and (I belatedly realized) she kind of commented on what I was doing and when I went to her office to ask her to repeat what she said, she just kinda ignored me and focused on whatever she was saying to this other staff.
As a disclaimer, I do get some mean girl (but old lady vibes) from her and I don’t really like her but I think I’m TA in this situation since she was kind enough to buy everyone some food and I just had to open my big mouth.
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I mean you weren’t insulting or anything you just said you don’t want to eat the food. That’s totally 100% your right to make decisions on what foods you eat and why.
I have no intentions of ever eating insects, but plenty of cultures do. Good for them but I’ll never join them in that ritual and if anyone has a problem with that and acts like I’m an asshole because of what foods I choose to eat they can eat these hands.
Mind reading is never a good thing…just make small talk with her and address it that way if it bothers you so much. At the end of the day, it’s your paranoia and issue, not hers.