no matter how i initiate it, no matter how much foreplay, toys, i seem to have to carry the foreplay and oral sides of things no matter how much i ask. i never really seem to get anything back but maybe a kiss or something. like literally last night i wanted some head (i never ask and if i do its once in a blue moon) but to add to that he said he would but as soon as we got to kissing and touching and tried to initiate it i just got an “ughh but its so long” (like the guy doesn’t last 35mins when its the other way around) so i just turned around and eventually fell asleep. it just seems like i can never get anything for my pleasure apart from doing it myself. i always do anything he wants me to (within my comfort zone) whenever he wants me to. its starting to actually drive me crazy that i have to just have a wank if i want anything other than penetration. for context weve been together for just over a year
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Has he always been like this?
This is what bad sex sounds like. You have to sit him down and tell him this is very unfulfilling for you, that you need more than just plain old intercourse. He should be dying to please you and do anything you want, lots of men love giving oral and it’s usually a basic part of sex. Set him straight or things will never get better.