I (22 f) am dating my bf (27 m) for 3 months now. The first 2 months of our relationship is perfect and we cant seem to get enough of each other. He always updates me whenever he’ll become busy and vice versa. I never doubted his love and commitment to me because he is always been clear of his intentions and we’re very open with each other. He makes efforts to always make me happy and I would say our relationship is the healthiest Ive experienced so far. Its also important to note that we are in LDR which makes everything a little bit more complicated and our communication is through calling and texting. We have not met yet but we are always making plans about it. I admit that 3 months is still pretty new but I can already see changes in the way he communicates to me now. Sometimes he takes an hour to reply and sometimes he just wont bother to reply at all. He wouldn’t say I love you back. He seems distant whenever we talk. I love him and Im afraid that were already losing the spark and connection we once have. Like I said we are very open with each other I always tell him what is bothering me or if he is doing something Im not ok with. I dont want him to think that im always complaining/focusing on the negative. I want our talks to be fun and lighthearted. But I cannot get out of my mind that something is changing with him. He is not as affectionate as he is like before. And I have no idea what to do. I want this to last. I dont want to mess this up.
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id say 3 months is pretty new to be saying i love you especially not even meeting yet. id say he’s probably waiting till he can experience some kind of physical chemistry before he can genuinely understand his feelings. id stand off a bit but if its still on your mind i would ask where his head is at about you.
I think men in the beginning try to cause the girl so that’s why he prob seemed more affectionate and was more into u. Now he’s just comfortable. It’s not a bad thing. If you want more affection, you prob should just tell him.
Its a LDR, its hard to be affectionate.
This is the issue of a LDR, due to lack of physical intimacy, not a product of your compatibility. How you guys go about managing this issue is going to break or strengthen your relationship.
Every LDR is very different and complex. There is no right answer.