Basically title. I (M19) haven’t seen quite a few of my old high school friends in a couple months. They were always the ones to initiate the out of school hangouts and stuff. I always saw them in school so i never had to initiate with them to hangout; it was a given. Now I only seem them at parties for birthdays, as of current, and quite frankly, I’ve found it really hard to bring myself to ask them to hangout just cause, as i feel like i sound needy or am nagging them. ONCE have I been able to do this, and it honestly stressed me out. How do I ask them to hangout without sounding being needy/clingy?
Edit: I’m getting the idea that it’s way simpler than I thought and that I might be getting stressed over nothing. Thanks heaps everyone!
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Just ask them something like ‘Hey, I found out this new board game/movie/anything, wanna come over by friday and check it out?’
I mean, if they are your friends then neediness starts when you keep bothering them every day about hanging out. I think once a week is fine tbh
If you ask every day that might be needy but you don’t seem to do so, so I think you should just ask to go out
“Hey, i’m gonna do [insert activity], wanna join?”.
Hey Im going to do xyz I know it’s something you might be interested in wanna join me?
Plan an activity, then ask them if they want to join. Never ask someone “do you want to go out?” or “we should go out more”, “I want to go out with you”, etc. Remember always. Have an activity and ask them to join. That way they don’t see you as clingy
Brooo do itttt! I literally swiped on some girls story that I met once at a club. Her stories on instagram were always so fun, she was always doing smthing crazy. I said “omg ur life looks so fun, I wanna be friends with you” and just like that she adopted me into her friend group and it’s been amazing!! Looking back, I feel so stupid for feeling nervous to text her but look where it has got me now!
Hey I wanna do xyz wanna tag along? Bro pleease PLEEEASASSEE ;–;– ;-;; PLEEASEE I NEED YOU TO COME
Sometimes I feel that way too but it’s mostly internal. You probably are in need of some time with friends so it seems like more of an intense ask than it really is. Also you might want to get some kind of social routine going whether it be with these friends or ones you meet doing something regularly ( example: fitness class, hiking group, pottery, rock climbing, irl gaming etc)