We’ve had this conversation during our recent dine-out. He said he wanted to get married but doesn’t have enough finances yet. Aaand these thoughts have been on my mind for the past week so i told him about it and he liked it.
I told him i liked the idea of an intimate wedding for now/sooner (immediate family only and closest friends) and then renew vows after 10 years and that’s the time we go all out, complete entourage, destination wedding, a very grande one like we used to dream of when we were younger.
He loved the idea and told me he might propose soon.
Has anyone done this or had thoughts of it? What do you guys think?
Context: i have a really big family/clan and loves get together so much, so is he but with friends. We can’t invite them all for now though
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> Has anyone done this or had thoughts of it? What do you guys think?
My partner and I are doing something similar, not because of finances, simply because we’re a binational couple. We have a “small” wedding this summer (about 35 guests including us and our two witnesses, just immediate family and a few of our friends), and there will most likely be a big dinner later in the year or next year. But even our small wedding will easily cost us 8-10k (depending on if we pay for public transport tickets, flights etc. for some of his family).
> that’s the time we go all out, complete entourage, destination wedding, a very grande one like we used to dream of when we were younger.
Just keep in mind that some people might not be able to travel at that point (e.g. too old, children, not financially possible).
> We can’t invite them all for now thoug
If someone has a backyard…you can host a big celebration without the “wedding”-tag and it doesn’t have to be too pricey.
That’s an awesome idea! My wife and I got married at a friend’s house and later on, when it was affordable, we had a larger gathering. Weddings aren’t meant to be extravagant, nor should anyone ever feel pressured to put on such a display. Marriage is a ceremony between two people who are making a solemn promise to accept each others mistakes, to help lift each other up, and to express a life long love. I wish you both happiness and success.
I’m going to offer a different perspective.
I know that you two have been together for roughly 5 years. And it’s fantastic you have discussed marriage and are on the same page.
Your 20s are a time of immense growth: personal and professional. Are you where you want to be career and/or education-wise? Can you support each other if one loses their job or goes back to school? Have you discussed financial goals, plans for children, etc? Are your interests and morals aligned?
I’m not discouraging you in any way. Personally, the idea of a small ceremony and a blowout vow renewal is smart and amazing! It’s just some food for thought.
Congratulations 👏🥳
When me and my wife where dating I told her we could out money down on a house, or have a big huge wedding.
We are still in the same house 14 years later.
Wedding was small.