Hi!
My boyfriend and I are in a healthy relationship. We have been together for a year now so we are very comfortable and openly communicate about anything and everything.
We have an active physical relationship as well but it’s been very frustrating for us as I haven’t had an orgasm ever. In the beginning, I thought it was normal and women don’t get that frequently but when I talk about this matter with my female friends, most of them have it on a regular basis. We have tried different ways as well so I can reach that level which I do every time but just never able to finish it. Every time I’m at the peak, weirdly I start feeling like I’ve to go use the washroom so I stop him and run away.
Recently, I watched a TikTok (hence not trusting the source and seeking advice here) where a woman explained that if one gets the urge to pee in the middle of coitus that means you’re gonna squirt. This blew my mind!! I immediately shared it with my bf and we decided not to stop this time when I felt it but I was so anxious and I just couldn’t finish.
My body gets exhausted after long rounds and I get mentally satisfied however my body is not reacting in the same manner.
Idk what to do even tho my boyfriend is very relaxed and pushes me to just let it be and not overthink. It will happen naturally someday but I genuinely think there’s something wrong with me.
Does the theory hold any truth to it? Is it normal to not cum even tho you’re mentally extremely satisfied? Should I seek a gynec or something? Is there something that we can try as a couple that can make it more easier?
Thank you for taking the time out and reading this. I’II appreciate your insights on this. Thank you 🙂
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I’m a guy, so maybe not the best to offer advice, but every women I have been with needs to do different things to cum.
If you have never had an orgasm, the best advice is to masturbate alone until you figure out how you are wired. that both helps you figure out what uoubneed physically, but also what you need mentally. You could also use a vibe or something else to help out.
Once you’ve done this, it should be easier to figure it out with your bf.
And I think this will be good for allowing yourself to squirt. It’s not easy to untrained your muscles to allow yourself to do that alone… With someone else there, even if you’re into it, adds more brain complexity.
Good luck!
I think you’re fine personally.
Perhaps try some different types of toys to see what stimulation gets you closer. Penetrative and clitoral, for example.
Everyone’s different!
Not sure how old you are or where you are from, but I would suggest giving weed a try.
My wife went from just clitoral orgasms to squirting and vaginal orgasms.
I’ve heard some people have similar experiences with alcohol, but I think it takes away just enough of that mental barrier to unlock some things.
You got this xzd explore have fun and safe journey
You need to play with yourself and make yourself orgasm alone. Just you and pleasure. Try different toys, locations (shower, kitchen, outside, etc), maybe try different clitoral stimulators/vibratory can make it faster and easier.