So basically I’m 14 years old, and high school in the netherlands starts 7th grade, so both 7th and 8th grade i’ve had the same class. The girls were just one big group, i was kinda included i guess but always felt left out and ditched because I was a little different than them. Not in a “pick me” ish way but all of them played field hockey, i didn’t, all of them lived around the same place, i didn’t i lived 40 minutes away, all of them wore the same type of clothing style which i wasn’t a really big fan of, don’t get me wrong i love dressing girly but not in the same way as they do, regardless i was nice but apparently they all talked behind my back during my lowest point last school year, sometimes i’d spend breaks in the toilet, there was a period of time were i couldn’t go a full week to school without falsely calling in sick. i don’t think i’ve ever felt worse, the cherry on top was me being in a fight with a super duper popular girl who was held back so she knew upperclassmen, was super close with the guys and RUINED my reputation that was already wacky, we made up (i apologized and asked her to do also, she did but never admitted to every wronging me even tho she ruined my life and sent me into the worst depressive episode of my life and) regardless this school year i got a new class like we do in 9th grade and my old class is so cold towards me? the girls barely talked and CLEARY were talking behind my back, the guys literally pretend i don’t exist while lovingly socializing with the other girls? i don’t get it. the guys anyway didn’t like me half as much as the other girls because i stood up to them making racist and very islamophobic jokes which automatically made them hate me. i don’t know what to do tho. i mean those girls’s opinion control 100% of the girls’s opinion in my year, and the guys are done for, they hate my guts. no one at my school really likes me, maybe a person or two but that it. am i just super annoying?
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I’m sorry you’re going through that. I was in a similar situation at your age. The unfortunate truth is that kids are messed up and kids grow into adults who behave just as poorly. In my experience, I just had to wait it out. By 9th grade, I (and the classmates from the previous 5 years) went to a bigger school. I found out what the typical program was and made sure to not do that. I wanted to meet new kids and put all of that behind me. Not sure what your situation is, but I was allowed to choose my classes to some degree. I took higher level classes, debate, theater, because no one I knew would be there. I quickly made friends and the past was the past.
when you’re an adult you have a lot more autonomy, and aren’t forced to be anywhere. I know it feels like a lifetime of crap, and you don’t deserve any of that, but it won’t be so bad soon.
They are ignorant, probably can’t spot Australia on a globe, but it’s not their fault either. They’re gonna act dumb because they have fewer interesting life experiences than you. Someday at least one of those people are going to apologize to you. You have a fascinating perspective. Please write about this. People will pay good money in the future to read about an experience like yours. Turn the negative into a positive. Please, just don’t let them change you.
Try to find someone else who needs a friend. They’ll be onto someone else soon, just stay busy and don’t let them f your future up by reacting to them.