This is my 2nd time to ever post a question on reddit as i dont usually who writes questions but felt the need to to hear some motivational advices.
English is my 2nd language and sorry if i make any mistakes as i arrived here while at the age of 18 and had to start my life all over again due my tough and unsafe conditions back in my orginal country. I left what i built for 18 years in terms of friendships, life, study..etc all behind.
Ok so im in my late 20s now, and its been alot happening in the last 10 years of life. Looking back through those years i think i can say im proud of myself on what i have achieved. From knowing 10% of english to going into highschool for 2 years then graduating year 12 at the age of 19 and making it to Uni and got my dream degree in engineering and been working for the last 5 years, travelled alot as part of my work (Solo). Lets just say in that aspect im fairly satisfied of where iam, was not easy ofcourse, as life in general is always harder for someone who isnt born here compared to someone who was born and raised here as they are always ahead of you and you always have to catch up. Restarting life at the age of early 18 in a new country is not easy.
Now through all these years, i have met heaps of people and made alot of friends. However, over those years my best friends appears to have been distant themselves from me one after another. I have not had a phone call or a message from a friend for years now to simply tell me how i was doing. And those friends were really close and best friends to me we used to go out alot. Now i did try to get to touch to catch up to those friends but all responses were “im busy another time maybe” and similar response and i did try multiple times same story so i kinda stop getting in touch and never heared from them since. And those friends were a mix of old uni mates that were my best friends at some point and others who I got to know over the years. Thinking about it and going over each of those friends of whether i have done something wrong to them and all i can think of is nothing.
I have never ever in my whole life thought that one day i will say this or reach to this point with Zero friends no gf and zero social life. As im very social guy and during my early years i have known and made alot of friends as mentioned before so im knida not used to this lonely life. I don’t even know how im i still going to work everyday due to being unmotivated at all.
I have been single for years now I also been broken hearted/rejected by 3 different girls over the last 6 months. Now that’s a separate story. But its all adding up. Im also average looking guy, tall, play sports (im a swimmer) trying to keep in shape..etc so lets say im a positive guy, funny and always keeping my head high, very confident, and a logical person.
I recently started going out alone to random bars, or just a walk..etc which something im not used to at all, i cried at some times and never thought that one day i will get to this point of loneliness.
Now my question is what happened to people and to this world. Why did all those people that i met over the years cut connections, or simply disappeared all of a sudden to only once day im findong myself with no one. No more real true friendships anymore. I appreciate any motivational advice and how to keep going forward no matter what, as im really tired now (mentally) because i really dont know what to do. Its really hard to find decent friends anymore that really cares about you and there for you.
Thanks all